Example Ceremonies
 
Sample  Ceremony 7   ...  with Children Included

 Welcome
We are gathered here today to witness the coming together of two people, Chris and Ed,  whose hearts and spirits are now entwined as one.
Every marriage is unique and special. But all marriages thrive on love and understanding.   When we marry, we freely give everything we have, and in the end we get much more in return.  That quite simply, is the true definition of love.
This is a union not to be entered into lightly.   It is a sacred commitment between two people, responsible only unto each other, held true by their own free will, and their individual ideas of values and beliefs.  Love is one of the greatest experiences that we as humans can have, but it is when love is combined with real friendship that both are infinitely enhanced.   
Chris and Ed have found in each other a relationship in which each person’s individuality is enhanced by the other, where each person can express his or her emotions without fear of being judged,  a relationship where they openly share not only the joys of their successes, but also the sorrows of their failures,  a relationship filled with mutual trust, respect, and love. They are two individuals, living one life together.
You are now taking into your care and keeping,   the happiness of the one person in the world whom you love best.  You are adding to your life, not only the affection of each other, but also the companionship and blessing, of a deep trust as well.   You are agreeing to share strength, responsibilities and your love
Marriage is a beautiful tribute of your faith in each other.  Henceforth you belong entirely to each other.    You will be one in mind, one in heart, and one in affection.
Whatever sacrifices you may have to make to preserve this common life, always make them generously.  May then your love in which you have joined, as you join your hands and hearts today, never fail, but grow deeper and stronger as the years go on.

(turn to Ed)
And so I now ask of you: 
Ed are these vows in which you are about to take, of your own free will and consent.
ED:    Yes

(turn to Chris)
And so now I ask of you:
Chris are these vows in which you are about to take, of your own free will and consent.
Chris:    Yes 

Acknowledging Children
Chris and Ed, today you are not only promising your love to one another, but you are also pledging your love to your children as well, committing to them that you will create a safe, loving, and happy, family together. 

Chris and Ed repeat after me:  (Note if you would prefer to read this section I will print just this out)
Joe Stacy Kelly Alex and Mary We love you. Today as we become man and wife, we also will become a true family. We will begin a new life together as a family. We  promise to be faithful to you, and a loving Mother and  Father, we will always be there for you, no matter what circumstances life brings our way, with each others  help,  we will face them all together as a family. We commit ourselves to ALL OF YOU, from this day forward and forevermore. We promise to accept, protect, and love you, all of our lives. We promise to do our best to guide and support you - and to respect you enough to allow you to see the world through your own eyes.



UNITING OF FAMILIES:
For you, the families of these two people, this is a special day in your lives as well. You have gathered to celebrate and share this joyous occasion. When a couple in love pledge their hearts to each other, they not only create a home and a family of their own, they also carry with them the support, good will, and hopes of all that care for them as individuals.  By uniting together, each of you join the family of the other - to bare its strengths and promise into the future.  Having this acknowledged is an important matter.  For this reason, I would ask this of your family:
 speak to children:
Joe, Stacy, Kelly, Alex, and Mary, you will have a share in this union and are a vital part of this new marriage. Your Mother and your Father have given you all their unconditional love, and honor your presence in their lives.. You have an important part to play in the happiness of this new family. 
As your Mother and Father exchange their pledges in sacred union, we ask
from all of you, to also offer a promise: that you will join together to create a home where you each help and support each other, creating a new way of life in which all of you may grow into the fullness of the best people you can be. 

Will you now promise to do your best to help make a happy and successful home for all of you, by your love and cooperation?

Do you, Joe, Kelli and Alex, accept this family union of lifelong love - And thereby, all as your own, do you promise to love, honor, and respect your new parent, and promise to support their marriage and your new family as you encourage and support each other in your new life together?
 (answer: YES)

Do you, Stacy and Mary, accept this family union of lifelong love - And thereby, all as your own, do you promise to love, honor, and respect your new parent, and promise to support their marriage and your new family as you encourage and support each other in your new life together?
(answer: YES)

Exchange of Rings:
hold ring in right hand, hold left hands 
Rings are a symbol of the unbroken circle of love.  Love given freely has no beginning and no end. May these rings always remind you of this day and your never-ending love. May the beauty of these rings represent a love glowing with increasing luster through the years.

ED repeat after me. While placing the ring on Chris’s finger:
I give you this ring; wear it with love and joy. As this ring has no end, neither shall my love for you. I choose you to be my wife this day and every day.


CHRIS repeat after me. While placing the ring on Ed’s finger:
I give you this ring; wear it with love and joy. As this ring has no end, neither shall my love for you.  I choose you to be my husband this day and every day.

Exchange of Vows:  
Turning to the Groom:
Do you Ed take Chris to be your Wife?  Do you promise to love her without reservation, honor and respect her, comfort her in times of sorrow, encourage her to achieve all of her goals, laugh with her, cry with her, grow with her spirit, always be open and honest with her and be with her for as long as you both shall live?
(Ed - I Do)
Turning to the Bride:
Do you Chris take Ed to be your Husband?  Do you promise to love him without reservation, honor and respect him, comfort him in times of sorrow, encourage him to achieve all of his goals, laugh with him, cry with him, grow with his spirit, always be open and honest with him and be with him for as long as you both shall live?
(Chris  - I Do)

Sand Ceremony
      Ed and Chris, you have just sealed your relationship by the giving and receiving of rings, and this covenant is a relationship pledge between two people who agree that they will commit themselves to one another throughout their lives. The most beautiful example of this marriage relationship is the partnership this family has promised to each other. You have all committed here today to share the rest of your lives with each other. Today, this relationship will be symbolized through the pouring of these individual containers of sand, representing each of you, and all that you are as an individual.  As these containers of sand are poured into the third container, the individual containers of sand will no longer exist, but will be joined together as one. As these grains of sand come together,  they can never be separated and poured again, so will this marriage and this family, be joined as one. 
Will you all pick up your color 

All pick up their containers
Each container is unique, representing who you are.  Will each of you please pour some sand into this larger glass container along with your good wishes,  when I ask you to: 
1.Father (1/2)  
2. Mother (1/2) 
3. Children (1/2) 
by age old to young   Note: each pour 1/2 of their container on top of the others, and after completion, all pour together blending colors.
4. Father & Mother together
Father and Mother are the foundation of this family, each child will be the foundation for their younger brother or sister. As the different colors will join together to form something quite beautiful, so to you are all joined together today, not only in marriage, but as family.


Closing Words:
Here life is touched by love and love by life, radiating joy like the warmth from fire. Here now, between Ed and Chris, lies hidden all the future of their lives together. 
May that future be blessed with deepening love. May they trust each other wholly, as they trust themselves, so that together they are equal to the needs of their tomorrows. May they be at home wherever they dwell, and gather wisdom from all the seasons of their lives and support each other through all of life’s adventures.

As you have consented together to be bound to one another in marriage. You have made special promises to each other, which have been symbolized by the joining of hands, taking of vows and by giving and receiving rings.
By the authority vested in me by the Commonwealth of Massachusetts,
and the power of your love ... I now pronounce you husband and wife.
You may kiss the bride.
 


Sample  Ceremony 8   

  Irish Hand-Fasting Cord Ceremony

We are gathered here today to witness the coming together of two people,  Diana and PJ,  whose hearts and spirits are entwined as one.
Love is one of the greatest experiences that we as humans can have, but it is when love is combined with real friendship that both are infinitely enhanced.
Marriage is a beautiful tribute of your faith in each other. Henceforth you belong to entirely each other. You will be one in Mind, one in Heart, and one in Affection. Whatever sacrifices you may have to make to preserve this common life, always make them generously.
This union will bind you together for life,  in a relationship so close and so intimate that it will influence your whole future. That future, with all of its hopes and disappointments, pleasures and pains, joys and sorrows, is hidden from your eyes.
 By the keeping of the solemn vows you are about to take, your life will be full of peace and joy, and the home you establish, will be a place in which you both will find serenity as you grow, and the trust and freedom you grant each other, will only be measured by the responsibility held by your accepting these vows.
And so I now ask of you PJ :    are the vows in which you are about to take of your own free will and consent?       (yes)
And so I now ask you Dian:   are the vows in which you are about to take of your own free will and consent?       (yes)
Turning to the Groom:
Do you PJ take Diana to be your Wife?  Do you promise to love her without reservation, honor and respect her, comfort her in times of sorrow, encourage her to achieve all of her goals, laugh with her, cry with her, grow with her spirit, always be open and honest with her and be with her for as long as you both shall live?
( I Do)
Turning to the Bride:
Do you Diana take PJ to be your Husband?  Do you promise to love him without reservation, honor and respect him, comfort him in times of sorrow, encourage him to achieve all of his goals, laugh with him, cry with him, grow with his spirit, always be open and honest with him and be with him for as long as you both shall live?
( I Do)
May I have the rings, please? (Hold in right hands, join left hands.)
A ring is an unbroken circle, a symbol of unity and love, representative of the greater circle of life of which we all spiritually are a part of.   Having neither beginning nor end, but a continuous cycle, which you both are an element.  For you  both , it now begins with the gift of the life you promise each other, and will continue for as long as you both shall live.
These simple bands are one of the most important and lasting keepsakes any married couple can have, they are made precious by what they represent. 
Repeat after me …. I, PJ take you Diana to be my wife,  my partner in life and my one true love.  I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever.  I will trust you and honor you.  As I have given you my hand to hold, so I give you my life to keep. I give you this ring, as a daily reminder of my love for you. Will you Diana accept this ring as a loving symbol of PJ’s vows this day?
Answer: “I WILL”

  Repeat after me …. I, Diana take you PJ to be my husband,  my partner in life and my one true love.  I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever.  I will trust you and honor you.  As I have given you my hand to hold, so I give you my life to keep. I give you this ring, as a daily reminder of my love for you. Will you PJ accept this ring as a loving symbol of PJ’s vows this day?
Answer: “I WILL”
Braided Cord Ceremony 
 (Note: this can also be done with a single cord / rope)
The braided cord ceremony comes from practices that were prevalent in Ireland centuries ago.  In olden times, rings were not always exchanged during a marriage ceremony.
A rope was used to bind the couple together into the bonds of marriage. The rope is then formed into a knot. It is to remain tied and be kept in the home to remind the couple of their vows to each other.
This is also where the saying,  tying the knot comes from.

“Today, PJ and Diane have chosen to braid three strands together into a single cord. Each strand has a significant meaning.  According to Irish lore: The white in the center signifies a lasting truce between the Orange and the Green.
The green strand represents the groom and his individual life. 
The orange strand represents the bride and her individual life. . 
The white strand represents this marriage and all it’s love. 
In braiding these three strands together,  Diane and PJ have demonstrated that their marriage is more than a joining of two individual lives together. It is a unity with love and understanding at the center of their marriage, woven into every aspect of it. They have chosen that their love, and respect, for each other will be woven together as ONE in marriage.”
( Hold hands right to right left to left wrist crossed, as knot is tied. )
Wrapping of the hands is an ancient Celtic tradition, known as Handfasting.  The hands convey the love and warmth of the heart, while the infinity knot in the shape of a figure eight, is a symbol that conveys “forever”. 
The wrapping of their hands also symbolizes the bringing together of their lives in a marriage of strength and unity.
 ( as knot is tied )
 The braided cord is wound around the wrists over the top of one and under and around the other, thus creating the infinity symbol. 
This ritual, referred to earlier, as the origin of the term tying the knot. 
Know now that since your lives have crossed, you have formed ties between each other. The promises you make today, and the ties that are bound here, will cross the years and greatly strengthen your union.  With full awareness, know that you declare your intent to be Handfasted, before your friends and families.
The knots of this binding are not formed by these cords, but rather by your vows. For always, you hold in your own hands the making or breaking of this union.
(Conclusion)
Here life is touched by love and love by life, radiating joy,  like the warmth from fire. Here now, between PJ and Diana, lies hidden all the future of their lives together.  May that future be blessed with deepening love. May they trust each other wholly, as they trust themselves, so that together they are equal to the needs of their tomorrows.  May they be at home wherever they dwell,  and gather wisdom from all the seasons of their lives.

As you have consented together to be bound to one another in marriage. You have made special promises to each other, which have been symbolized by the joining of hands, taking of vows, and by giving and receiving rings.
As you continue on your journey together, I ask you to remember this advice: - Your most important commitment is to follow your heart, embrace trust, understanding, and giving without ever keeping score, and knowing that your partners feeling always come first.
May then, this love in which you have joined your hands and hearts today, never fail, but grow deeper and stronger as the years go on. 

By the power of your love and commitment, and by the authority vested in me, according to the laws of The Commonwealth of Massachusetts.
I now pronounce you married, and you may seal your vows with a kiss.

Please rise and welcome, The New Mr. and Mrs.

Sample  Ceremony 9
Today it is with great pleasure that we celebrate the wedding of Katie and Adam.
You have all come here, to share in this formal commitment they make to one another.   You offer your love and support to this family, and allow this Bride and Groom to start their married life together, surrounded by the people dearest and most important to them.  
Katie and Adam have asked me to thank you all, family, friends and loved ones, for your presence here today, especially those of you who have travelled a great distance, making such an effort in sharing this day with us, and being a part of this celebration.

Let us first define marriage:
“Marriage is a commitment to life, to the best that two people can find and bring out in each other. It offers opportunities for sharing and growth that no other human relationship can equal; a joining that is promised for a lifetime. Within the circle of its love, marriage encompasses all of life's most important relationships.
 A wife and a husband are each other's best friend, confidant, lover, teacher, listener, and critic. There may come times when one partner is heartbroken or ailing, and the love of the other may resemble the tender caring of a parent for a child.  Marriage deepens and enriches every facet of life. Happiness is fuller; memories are fresher; commitment is stronger; even anger is felt more strongly, and passes away more quickly.
 Marriage understands and forgives the mistakes life is unable to avoid. It encourages and nurtures new life, new experiences, and new ways of expressing love through the seasons of life. 
When two people pledge to love and care for each other in marriage, they create a spirit unique to themselves, which binds them closer than any spoken or written words.     Marriage is a promise, a potential, made in the hearts of two people who love, which takes a lifetime to fulfill.”


Now let us define love in Marriage!
"Love is friendship caught fire; it is quiet, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving.   It is loyalty through good and bad times.   It settles for less than perfection, and makes allowances for human weaknesses.   Love is content with the present, hopes for the future, and does not brood over the past.  It is the day-in and day-out chronicles of irritations, problems, compromises, small disappointments, big victories, and working toward common goals.  If you have love in your life, it can make up for a great many things you lack… If you do not have it, no matter what else there is, it is not enough."

Let's elaborate on friendship's role in marriage:
“It is often said that it is love that makes the world go round. However, without doubt, it is friendship, which keeps our spinning existence on an even keel. True friendship provides so many of the essentials for a happy life-it is the foundation on which to build an enduring relationship, it is the mortar which bonds us together in harmony, and it is the calm, warm protection we sometimes need when the world outside seems cold and chaotic. True friendship holds a mirror to our foibles and failings, without destroying our sense of worthiness. True friendship nurtures our hopes, supports us in our disappointments, and encourages us to grow to our best potential. Katie and Adam came together as friends. Today, they pledge to each other not only their love, but also the strength, warmth and, most importantly, the fun of true friendship.”
Ask Mothers to come up and light candles  MOMS NAMES ??       


Give Flowers to maid of honor with Katie and Adam facing each other and holding hands, 
Katie and Adam
“Within this blessed union of souls, where two hearts intertwine to become one, there lies a promise.  Perfectly born, divinely created, and intimately shared, it is a place where the hope and majesty of beginnings reside. Where all things are made possible by the astounding love, shared by two spirits. As you hold each other’s hands in this promise, and eagerly look into the future in each other’s eyes, may your unconditional love and devotion take you to places were you’ve both only dreamed. Where you’ll dwell for a lifetime of happiness, sheltered in the warmth of each other’s arms.”
“These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love for you, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow, and forever. These are the hands that will work alongside yours, as together you build your future. These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch, will comfort you like no other. These are the hands that will hold you when fear or grief fills your mind. These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes; tears of sorrow, and as in today, tears of joy. These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children, the hands that will help you to hold your family as one. These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it. And lastly, these are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged, will still be reaching for yours, still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch.” 

Ask Jacob to present rings
 Exchange of Rings hold in right hand- hold left hands
       The wedding ring is an unbroken, never-ending circle, as your commitment and love for each other is never-ending. These simple bands are made precious by what they represent. They are a symbol to you and to the world of your union. Your rings say that you are two individuals bound together. 
When you look at these rings, remember the commitment that you are making to each other today. They show the world, that you love, and are loved by another.

Adam, place the ring on Katie’s finger, and repeat after me:
Katie I give you this ring, wear it with love and joy.  As this ring has no end, neither shall my love for you.  I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever.  I will trust you and honor you.  I will laugh with you and cry with you. I will always first, give you the best of everything I have.  I will love you faithfully through the best and the worst, through the difficult and the easy.  What may come, good or bad, I will always be there. As I have given you my hand to hold, so I give you my life to keep.
 I choose you to be my wife my partner in life and my one true love. 
this day and every day.

Katie, place the ring on Adam’s finger, and repeat after me:
 Adam I give you this ring, wear it with love and joy.  As this ring has no end, neither shall my love for you.  I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever.  I will trust you and honor you.  I will laugh with you and cry with you. I will always first, give you the best of everything I have.  I will love you faithfully through the best and the worst, through the difficult and the easy.  What may come, good or bad, I will always be there. As I have given you my hand to hold, so I give you my life to keep. 
I choose you to be my husband, my partner in life, and my one true love, this day and every day.

Reading by:  ?
I Do’s
(turning to groom)
Do you Adam take Katie as your wedded wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, both in sickness and in health, to love and cherish her for as long as you both shall live.     Adam: I do
(Turning to bride)
Do you Katie take Adam as your wedded husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, both in sickness and in health, to love and cherish him for as long as you both shall live.
Katie: I do  

Closing:
May these two find happiness in their union. May they live faithfully together, and may they ever remain in compassion and understanding, that their years may be rich in the joys of life, and their days good and long upon the earth. 
Adam and Katie, you have now affirmed before your families and friends, your love and your caring for each other. May the challenges of your life together be met with courage and optimism. May you learn from your failures and grow in your achievements.  Let your love always be stronger than your anger. May the spirit of love be ever a part of your lives, so that this union we here celebrate today, can be worthy of continued celebration, tomorrow and forever.

Remember… Your most important commitment is to follow your heart, embrace trust, understanding, and giving without ever keeping score, and knowing that your partners feeling always come first. 

Believe the best of your beloved, rather than the worst. Confide in your partner, and ask for help when you need it. Remember that true friendship is the basis for any lasting relationship. Give your spouse the same courtesies and kindnesses, which you bestow on your friends… and Never go to sleep mad ... stay up and fight, and ...           Say "I love you" every day.

As you have consented together to be bound to one another in marriage, you have also made special promises to each other, which have been symbolized by the joining of hands, taking of vows, and by the giving and receiving of rings.  Marriage is a beautiful tribute of your faith in each other.  Now you belong entirely to each other.  
By the power of your love and commitment, and the authority vested in me by the Commonwealth of Massachusetts, 
 I now pronounce you husband and wife! 
You may kiss the Bride! 
Will everyone please rise and welcome for the first time, 
Mr. and Mrs.

We are gathered here today to witness and to celebrate the joining of Stephanie and Brian in the unity of marriage. They ask you, their family & friends, for your support and blessings in this journey into love, and a life together.

During this ceremony Stephanie and Brian will exchange rings.  They now entrust the keeping of these rings to the members of their families seated in the first 2 rows. Your warming of these rings with positive thoughts is most important to them, as is your presence here today.  These rings will become the visible signs of their commitment to one another.  To symbolize this,   I ask that each of you as you hold them in your hands, pause for a moment, warm them with your love, impart a silent intention, wishing Stephanie and Brian, health, happiness, good luck,

and all that is noble and good in life for their marriage, and their future together, then pass them on to the next person. When these rings come back, they will contain, in their precious metal, that which is more precious, that which is priceless; your love, best wishes and support for this union. ( Rings start with Grooms mother, go up the Grooms side, then back down the Brides side ending with the Brides mother. ) 

Every marriage is unique and special. But all marriages thrive on love and understanding. When we marry, we freely give everything we have, and in the end we get much more in return.

That quite simply, is the true definition of love         

Love is one of the greatest experiences that we as humans can have, but it is when love is combined with real friendship that both are infinitely enhanced.

And so I now ask of you:

Brian, are the vows in which you are about to take of your own free will and consent.      Yes

Stephanie are the vows in which you are about to take of your own free will and consent.      Yes


I would now like to invite ? to recite a reading


Stephanie and Brian when you enter into marriage, you enter into life’s most important relationship.  It is a gift, given to bring comfort when there is sorrow, peace when there is unrest, laughter when there is happiness and love when it is shared.  Real love goes far beyond the feelings of romance and bliss.  It is caring more about the well being and happiness of your marriage partner than your own needs and desires.  Love makes burdens lighter because you divide them. 

It makes joys more intense because you share them.  It makes you stronger so you can become involved with life in ways you dare not risk alone.  Real love says you are stronger together than when you are apart.

Do you Brian take Stephanie as your wedded wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, both in sickness and in health to love and cherish her as your best friend, for as long as you both shall live. I do


Do you Stephanie take  Brian  as your wedded husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, both in sickness and in health to love and cherish him as your best friend, for as long as you both shall live. I do


Marriage is a beautiful tribute of your faith in each other. Henceforth you belong to entirely each other. You will be one in Mind, one in Heart, and one in Affection. Whatever sacrifices you may have to make to preserve this common life, always make them generously.  May then, this love in which you have joined your hands and hearts today, never fail but grow deeper and stronger as the years go on. 

I would now like to invite ? to recite a reading


Start just before giving of rings:  music

Please join hands ... Squeeze please!

These are the hands of your best friend,

young and strong, and full of love for you.

These are the hands that are holding yours on your wedding day, as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow, and forever. 

The hands that will work alongside yours, as together you both build your future.

These are the hands that will passionately love you,

and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch, will comfort you like no other.

These are the hands that will hold you, when fear or grief enters your life.  The hands that will countless times, wipe tears of joy, and tears of sorrow from your eyes.

These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children.  The hands that will help hold your family together as one.  These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it.  The hands, that even when wrinkled with age, will still be reaching for yours, still giving the same unspoken tenderness, with just a touch.   Because of this love in your hearts, now you will seal your vows, by the giving,

and receiving of rings.   May I have the rings please,

Hold in right hands hold left.

The wedding ring is an unbroken, never-ending circle, as your commitment and love for each other is never-ending.

These simple bands are one of the most important and lasting keepsakes any married couple can have, they are made precious by what they represent.

They are a symbol to you and to the world of your union.

Brian, Please repeat after me while placing the ring on Stephanie’s finger:

I promise to love and care for you and I will in every way be worthy of your love. I promise to give you the best of myself and to ask of you no more than you can give. I will always be honest with you, kind, patient, and forgiving. But most of all,

I promise to be a true and loyal friend to you.  I promise to be your partner in all things, to love you in good times and in bad, with all I have to give - completely and forever. I choose you to be my wife my partner in life and my one true love. I give you this ring, as a daily reminder of my love for you, this day and every day.


Stephanie, Please repeat after me while placing the ring on Brains finger:

I promise to love and care for you and I will in every way be worthy of your love. I promise to give you the best of myself and to ask of you no more than you can give.  I will always be honest with you, kind, patient, and forgiving. But most of all, I promise to be a true and loyal friend to you.  I promise to be your partner in all things,

to love you in good times and in bad, with all I have to give - completely and forever. I choose you to be my wife my partner in life and my one true love. I give you this ring, as a daily reminder of my love for you, this day and every day.


When you look at these rings, remember the commitment that you are making to each other today. They show the world, that you love, and are loved by another.

I would now like to invite ? to recite a reading


Marriage is a beautiful tribute to your faith in each other.  May this faith and love in which you have joined your hands and hearts today never fail, and grow deeper and stronger as the years go on.

Here life is touched by love and love by life –

Here now, between Brian and Stephanie lies hidden all the future of their lives together.  May that future be blessed with deepening love. May they trust each other wholly, as they trust themselves.  May they be at home wherever they dwell, gather wisdom from all the seasons of their lives, and support each other through all of life’s adventures.


Will everyone please rise …


As you continue on your journey together, I ask you to remember this: Your most important commitment is to follow your heart, embrace trust, understanding, and giving, without ever keeping score, and knowing that your partners feeling always come first.

With these vows of love and trust, and the giving and receiving of rings - by the power vested in me by the Commonwealth of Massachusetts,

I now pronounce you husband and wife.


You may kiss the bride.

Ladies & Gentlemen,

I have the pleasure of introducing you to:

  Mr. & Mrs. 

Sample:  Ceremony 9 (Jewish version)

We gather here today to celebrate the wedding of Lisa and Daniel.

You have all come here to share in this formal commitment they make to one another, to offer your love and support to this union, and to allow this Bride and Groom to start their married life together, surrounded by the people dearest and most important to them.

So welcome to one and all, family, friends and loved ones,  Lisa and Daniel have asked me to thank you all for your presence here today, especially to those of you who have travelled a great distance, making such an effort to share this day with them, and to be a part of their celebration.

They would also like to thank each and every member of their wedding party.  You have been such an influential part of their lives and they are honored to have you stand with them on their wedding day.

Your presence and participation makes their celebration truly exceptional.  They welcome your blessing, encouragement,  and lifelong support.


(MOTHERS LIGHT INDIVIDUAL CANDLES)


At this time I would like to invite Natalie and Mary to come up and light a candle…..

Marriage is one of the greatest and most challenging adventure of human relationships.

We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see the imperfect,    perfectly.

No ceremony can create your marriage,  only you can do that, through love and patience; through dedication and perseverance; through talking and listening, helping, supporting and believing in each other;  through tenderness and laughter;  through learning to forgive, learning to appreciate your differences,  and by learning to make the important things matter, and to let go of the rest.

What this ceremony can do, is to witness, and affirm, the choice you make to stand together as lifetime partners, taking pride in who you are, both separately and together.

As you continue on your journey together,  I ask you to remember this advice:  Your most important commitment is to follow your heart, embrace trust, understanding, and giving without ever keeping score, and knowing that your partner’s feelings always come first.

Let your love be stronger than your anger.

Learn the wisdom of compromise, for it is better to bend than to break.

Believe the best of your beloved, rather than the worst.  Confide in your partner, and ask for help when you need it.   Remember that true friendship is the basis for any lasting relationship.

Give your spouse the same courtesies and kindnesses, which you bestow on your friends… and Never go to sleep mad ... stay up and fight, and ... Say "I love you" every day.

Readings 1

 I will now invite – Grandmother of the groom  to come up and read.

(face Reader)

(Face each other)

I Do’s

(turning to groom)

Do you Daniel take Lisa as your wedded wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, both in sickness and in health, to love and cherish her for as long as you both shall live.     “I do”


(Turning to bride)

Do you Lisa take Daniel as your wedded husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, both in sickness and in health, to love and cherish him for as long as you both shall live.

“I do” 


We have come to the point of your ceremony where you're going to say your vows to one another.

Before you do that, I ask you to remember, that love, which is rooted in trust and acceptance,  will be the foundation of an enduring and deepening relationship.  No other ties are as tender, no other vows more sacred, than those you now assume.

If you are able to keep the vows you take here today, not because of any religious or civic law, but out of a desire to love and be loved by another person fully, without limitation, then your life will have joy, and the home you establish, will be a place in which you both will find serenity as you grow, and the trust and freedom you grant each other will only be measured by the responsibility held by your accepting these vows.

(give flowers to Maid)


May I have the rings, please?

(Hold in right hands, join left hands.)


The wedding ring is an unbroken, never-ending circle, as your commitment and love for each other is never-ending.

These simple bands are one of the most important and lasting keepsakes any married couple can have, they are made precious by what they represent.

They are a symbol to you and to the world of your union. Your rings say that you are two individuals bound together.

When you look at these rings, remember the commitment that you are making to each other today. They show the world, that you love,  and are loved by another.



Daniel place the ring on Lisa’s finger and repeat after me:

I, Daniel take you Lisa to be my wife, 

my partner in life and my one true love. 

I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever. 

I will trust you and honor you.  

I will laugh with you and cry with you. 

I will love you faithfully through the best and the worst,    

through the difficult and the easy. 

What may come I will always be there. 

As I have given you my hand to hold,

so I give you my life to keep.

I give you this ring, as a daily reminder of my love for you.


Lisa place the ring on Daniel’s finger and repeat after me:

I, Lisa take you Daniel to be my Husband, 

my partner in life and my one true love. 

I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever. 

I will trust you and honor you.  

I will laugh with you and cry with you. 

I will love you faithfully through the best and the worst,

through the difficult and the easy. 

What may come I will always be there. 

As I have given you my hand to hold,

so I give you my life to keep.

I give you this ring, as a daily reminder of my love for you.



(Music) (Private Vow message of each presented here)

We have spent many hours, preparing for this day, and this ceremony. There are many words of advice spoken here today, and all are very valid to the happiness of this couple.  Knowing words spoken from the heart are felt more profoundly, I have given Lisa and Daniel a special task. I have asked them to write a small statement, a message of there feelings for one another, and to keep it private until this part of the ceremony. They will now read these special vows to each other, for the first time :

Daniel – Lisa     Lisa – Daniel (Personal Statements)



Unity Candle Ceremony (Music)

When we started this unique and beautiful ceremony, the Bride and Groom’s Mothers Natalie and Mary,

lit two small candles representing their child which have been burning, but no mention was made up to now of their function or significance. I shall now speak of their symbolic value. 

The two candles that are lit,  symbolize Lisa and Daniel as individuals.   Some people believe that when children are born,  a light is born within them,

it stays with them and lights their path in their life’s journey, and the search for their soul mate.


The third candle, still unlit, is called the Unity Candle, and it symbolizes Lisa and Daniel in the unity of marriage. Together Lisa and Daniel will now light their Unity Candle; its light will guide them in their future journey.

One flame of warmth, one light to guide your path together,   one flame of hope to shine forever.

From every human being rises a light, radiating consciousness and love into the world, and when two souls destined to be together, find each other, their stream of light flows together, and a single, brighter light goes forth from their united being.

This light they  will share as one.


Blow out each others candle


The tradition and meaning of the Bride and Groom each blowing out their partner’s individual flame, in no way signifies they have lost their individual identity.

The blowing out of the individual flames, simply means, that the union will come before either one of the individuals lives, at all times. 

In other words, the needs of the union that has just been formed, will take precedence, over any individual needs of either participant. It does mean a public announcement, that they are no longer the individuals they have been up to this moment; they are now the more powerful union,  of the both of them,   together.

May the light of love, understanding, respect and trust shine eternally for you both.

(get flowers back from Maid)


Closing

Here life is touched by love and love by life, radiating joy like warmth from fire.

Here now, between Daniel and Lisa, lies hidden all the future of their lives together.

May that future be blessed with deepening love.

May they trust each other wholly, as they trust themselves, so that together they are equal to the needs of their tomorrows.

May they be at home wherever they dwell, and gather wisdom from all the seasons of their lives.

As you have consented together to be bound to one another in marriage. You have also made special promises to each other, which have been symbolized by the joining of hands, taking of vows and by giving and receiving rings.

Marriage is a beautiful tribute of your faith in each other.  Henceforth, you belong entirely to each other.

You will be one in Mind,  one in Heart, and one in Affection.  Whatever sacrifices you may have to make to preserve this common life, always make them generously and ...  MAY YOU TRULY LIVE, ALL OF THE DAYS OF YOUR LIFE !


(Breaking of the Glass and Pronouncement, Best man puts the glass wrapped in cloth on the floor beside the groom's foot)

The traditional breaking of the glass symbolizes both the strength and the fragility of the spiritual bond that is marriage. Like the broken glass, marriage is an irrevocable act. It cannot be undone.

It is a reminder to appreciate all that we have now, to embrace change, and to always hold the important things in life above all else. Daniel and Lisa may your marriage last longer than it would take for all the broken pieces to be reassembled and may all of your troubles be as easily shattered.

Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails. May you keep this wisdom for all the days of your togetherness.


As the glass is broken, I invite everyone to shout "Mazal Tov," which means "congratulations and good luck."


By the power of your love and commitment, and the authority vested in me by the Commonwealth of Massachusetts,  I now pronounce you husband and wife!  You may kiss the Bride!


(Groom steps on glass breaking it) "Mazal Tov!"


Will everyone please rise and welcome for the first time,   Mr. and Mrs.


(Music)Recessional

  1. *As you embark on this life together, I ask you both to remember this:  Your most important commitment is to follow your heart, embrace trust, understanding, and giving without ever keeping score, and knowing that your partners feeling always come first.


*Do you take Irene to be your wife and soul mate, your one true love, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, both in sickness, and in health, to join together your heart unto hers, uniting your love, trust and respect with hers, throughout this life and for all time?


* Let us be grateful to the people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.

You are the people who make the souls of Sara and Matt blossom. We want to acknowledge and thank all of you for your support and participation today.


  1. *Brooke & Benjamin when you enter into marriage, you enter into life’s most important relationship.  It is a gift, given to bring comfort when there is sorrow, peace when there is unrest, laughter when there is happiness and love when it is shared.  Real love goes far beyond the feelings of romance and bliss.  It is caring more about the well being and happiness of your marriage partner than your own needs and desires.  Love makes burdens lighter because you divide them.  It makes joys more intense because you share them.  It makes you stronger so you can become involved with life in ways you dare not risk alone.  Real love says you are stronger together than when you are apart.


  1. *As you know… marriage comes from an agreement between friends… which then becomes your life long commitment to each other…and that agreement starts here with these vows you now commit to each other.


* I ask you to reflect on this marriage advice:
Let your love be stronger than your anger.
Learn the wisdom of compromise, for it is better to bend than to break.
Look for the best in your beloved rather than the worst.
Confide in your partner and ask for help when you need it.
Remember that true friendship is the basis for any lasting relationship.
Give your spouse the same courtesies and kindnesses you bestow on your friends.

* Katie, place the ring on Adam’s finger, and repeat after me:

Adam I give you this ring, wear it with love and joy.  As this ring has no end, neither shall my love for you.  I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever.  I will trust you and honor you.  I will laugh with you and cry with you. I will always first, give you the best of everything I have.  I will love you faithfully through the best and the worst, through the difficult and the easy.  What may come, good or bad, I will always be there. As I have given you my hand to hold, so I give you my life to keep.

I choose you to be my husband, my partner in life, and my one true love, this day and every day.


  1. *Love is here and now, real and true, the most important thing in our lives. For love is the creator of our favorite memories, and the foundation of our fondest dreams. Love is a promise that is always kept, a fortune that can never be spent, a seed that can flourish in even the most unlikely of places. And this radiance that never fades, this mysterious and magical joy, is the greatest treasure of all -- one known only by those who love.


  1. *Life has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction."


* As you may already have come to know, when we love, we see things other people do not see.   We see beneath the surface, to the qualities that make our beloved special and unique. To see with loving eyes, is to know inner beauty. And to be loved is to be seen and known, as we are known to no other.

To make this relationship work however, takes more than love.  It takes trust, and to know in your hearts, that you want only the best for each other.


  1. *It takes dedication to stay open to one another, to learn and grow, even when it is difficult to do so.   The true art of successful married life, is a mutual enrichment, a give and take between two personalities, a mingling of two endowments, which diminishes neither, but enhances both.


  1. *I Christopher choose you Janine to be my wife. I will comfort you in times of sorrow, encourage you to achieve all of your goals, laugh with you, cry with you, and always be open and honest I will respect and honor you, care for you, and love you unconditionally, through good times and hard times, as your friend, companion, and soul mate, giving the best that I can, to fulfill our lives together.



* Dave repeat after me while placing the ring on Brenda Leigh’s finger:

With this ring, I give to you my promise,
that from this day forward you will not walk alone.
May my heart be your shelter,
and my arms be your home.
May we walk together through all things.
May you feel deeply loved, for indeed you are.
With this ring I give you my heart.
I have no greater gift to give, than my life to keep.
I promise I will give you my all.
I will always be honored to call you my wife.
May we feel this joy we feel now … forever.


* I promise to love and care for you and I will try in every way to be worthy of your love.

I will always be honest with you, kind, patient, and forgiving. But most of all, I promise to be a true and loyal friend to you.

I love you.


* Family Sand Ceremony

Often marriage is viewed as the union of two persons.  Yet marriages not only unite the Bride and the Groom, they unite families. By uniting together, each of you join the family of the other - to bare its strengths and promise into the future.  Having this acknowledged is an important matter.  For this reason, I would now ask this of your family:     speak to children:      Ashley, Jason, Anthony and Ethan,    you will have a share in this union, and are a vital part of this new marriage.  Your Mother and your Father have given you all their unconditional love, and honor your presence in their lives.   You have an important part to play in the happiness of this new family.  As your Mother and Father exchange their Vows and declaration of love, we ask from all of you, that you will join together creating a new way of life, where you each help and support each other, so that all of you may grow into the fullness of the best people you can be, and to do your best to help make a happy and successful home for this family,  by your love and cooperation   music starts

Today, this relationship will be symbolized through the pouring of these individual containers of different colored sand, representing each of you, and your children.  As these containers of sand are poured into the middle container, the individual containers of sand will no longer exist, but will be joined together as one. As the sand symbolically comes together,  and can never be undone, so will both of you and this family, be joined as one.

Will you all pick up your container of sand.

Each container is different, representing the uniqueness of who you are as individuals.  When I ask you to….

  Will each of you please pour your sand into this larger glass container along with your good wishes, and love.: 

Michael  1st.  ½    Elizabeth 2nd  ½

Michael and Elizabeth are the foundation of this new family …

Ashley    3rd  1/2      Jason  4th  1/2

Anthony  15th 1/2   6th  Ethan 1/2

All pour together the remainder 

So is the bond of trust that your parents establish with one another, and extend to all of you this day.   As the sand comes together,  so will this marriage, and this family, be as one.

Welcome,

We are gathered here today to witness and to celebrate the joining of Sean and Irene in the unity of marriage. They ask you, their family & friends, for your support and blessings in this journey into love, and a life together.
The Short and Sweet Ceremony  

 Every marriage is unique and special. But all marriages thrive on love and understanding. When we marry, we freely give everything we have, and in the end we get much more in return. That quite simply, is the true definition of love.

( turning to groom)
Do you Kevin take Sabine as your wedded wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, both in sickness and in health to love and cherish her for as long as you both shall live.  Kevin - I do

(turning to bride)
Do you Sabine take Kevin as your wedded husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, both in sickness and in health to love and cherish him for as long as you both shall live.  Sabine – I do

Please hold hands and squeeze …
These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong, and full of love for you. These are the hands that are holding yours on your wedding day, as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow, and forever.  The hands that will work alongside yours as together you both build your future.  These are the hands that will passionately love you, and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch, will comfort you like no other.  These are the hands that will hold you, when fear or grief enters your life.  The hands that will countless times, wipe tears of joy, and tears of sorrow from your eyes.  These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children.  The hands that will help hold your family together as one.  These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it.  The hands that even when wrinkled with age, will still be reaching for yours, still giving the same unspoken tenderness, with just a touch.
Having this love in your hearts, you have chosen to seal your vows, by the blessing, and giving and receiving of rings.  

Kevin place the ring on Sabine’s finger and repeat after me:
I, Kevin take you Sabine to be my wife, my partner in life and my one true love.  I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever. I will trust you and honor you.   I will laugh with you and cry with you.  I will love you faithfully.  What may come I will always be there.  This ring is a gift for you, it symbolizes my desire, that you be my wife  from this day forward.   As this ring has no end,  neither shall my love for you.  I give you this ring, as a daily reminder of my love for you.   
 As I have given you my hand to hold, so I give you my life to keep. 

Sabine place the ring on Kevin’s finger and repeat after me:
I, Sabine take you Kevin to be my Husband, my partner in life and my one true love.  I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever.  I will trust you and honor you.   I will laugh with you and cry with you.  I will love you faithfully. What may come I will always be there.  This ring is a gift for you, it symbolizes my desire,  that you be my husband  from this day forward.   As this ring has no end,  neither shall my love for you.  I give you this ring, as a daily reminder of my love for you.  As I have given you my hand to hold, so I give you my life to keep.

As you have consented together to be bound to one another in marriage. Your most important commitment is to follow your heart, embrace trust, understanding, and giving Without ever keeping score, and knowing that your partners feeling always come first.
You have made special promises to each other, which have been symbolized by the joining of hands, taking of vows and by giving and receiving rings.

By the authority vested in me by the Commonwealth of Massachusetts and the power of your love… I have the pleasure to pronounce you husband and wife. 
You may now kiss the bride.

The Short (and not so Sweet)

( turning to groom)
Do you Jay take Anne as your wedded wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, both in sickness and in health to love and cherish her for as long as you both shall live.
Jay - I do

(Turning to bride)
Do you Anne take Jay as your wedded husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, both in sickness and in health to love him for as long as you both shall live.
Anne – I do

Jay place the ring on Anne’s finger and repeat after me ...
This ring is a gift for you, it symbolizes my desire,  that you be my husband  from this day forward.  
I give you this ring, as a daily reminder of my love for you.  

Anne place the ring on Jay’s finger and repeat after me ...
This ring is a gift for you, it symbolizes my desire,  that you be my husband  from this day forward.  
I give you this ring, as a daily reminder of my love for you.  

As you have consented together to be bound to one another in marriage.  By the authority vested in me by the Commonwealth of Massachusetts and the power of your love… 

I have the pleasure to pronounce you husband and wife. 

You may now kiss the bride.
Sean and Irene have found in each other a relationship in which each person’s individuality is enhanced by the other, where each person can express his or her emotions without fear of being judged; a relationship where they openly share not only the joys of their successes, but also the sorrows of their failures; a relationship filled with mutual trust, respect and love. They are two individuals, living one life together.

As Sean and Irene enter into marriage, they do so with thought and reverence.  They give thanks for the past, which has brought them to this place, and look forward with hope to what the future will bring.

Two people in love do not live in isolation.

Their love is a source of strength, with which they may nourish not only each other, but also the world around them. And in turn, we, their community of friends and family, have a responsibility to this couple.

By our steadfast care, respect, and love, we can support their marriage, and the new family they are creating today.

Let us all keep in mind, that the grass is always greener ... when it’s watered.

 Look at one another and remember this moment in time.  Before this moment, you have been many things to one another, acquaintance, friend, and companion. Now you shall say a few words that will take you across the threshold of life, and things will never quite be the same. For after these vows, you shall say to the world, this is my husband, this is my wife.


1. Sean, do you take Irene to be your wife and soul mate, your one true love, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, both in sickness, and in health, to join together your heart unto hers, uniting your love, trust and respect with hers, throughout this life and for all time? (Sean answers: I do)

Irene, do you take Sean to be your husband and soul mate, your one true love, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, both in sickness, and in health, to join together your heart unto his, uniting your love, trust and respect with his, throughout this life and for all time?  (Irene answers: I do)


Start just before giving of rings: 

Please join hands ... Squeeze please!

These are the hands of your best friend,

young and strong, and full of love for you.

These are the hands that are holding yours on your wedding day, as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow, and forever.  The hands that will work alongside yours, as together you both build your future.

These are the hands that will passionately love you,

and cherish you through the years,

and with the slightest touch, will comfort you like no other.

These are the hands that will hold you, when fear or grief enters your life.  The hands that will countless times, wipe tears of joy, and tears of sorrow from your eyes.

These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children.  The hands that will help hold your family together as one.

These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it. The hands that even when wrinkled with age, will still be reaching for yours, still giving the same unspoken tenderness, with just a touch.

Because of this love in your hearts, now you will seal your vows, by the giving and receiving of rings. 

May I have the rings please

These simple bands are one of the most important and lasting keepsakes any married couple can have, they are made precious by what they represent.

They are a symbol to you and to the world of your union. Let these rings serve not as locks binding you together, but as keys, unlocking the secrets of your hearts for each other to know, and thus bringing you closer each day that you wear them.


Sean, place the ring on Irene’s finger, and repeat after me:

Irene, I give you this ring, wear it with love and joy.  As this ring has no end, neither shall my love for you.  I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever.  I will trust you and honor you.  I will laugh with you and cry with you. I will always first, give you the best of everything I have.  I will love you faithfully through the best and the worst, through the difficult and the easy.  What may come, good or bad, I will always be there. As I have given you my hand to hold, so I give you my life to keep.  I choose you to be my wife my partner in life and my one true love.  I give you this ring, as a daily reminder of my love for you, this day and every day.

Irene, place the ring on Sean’s finger, and repeat after me:

Sean I give you this ring, wear it with love and joy.  As this ring has no end, neither shall my love for you.  I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever.  I will trust you and honor you.  I will laugh with you and cry with you. I will always first, give you the best of everything I have.  I will love you faithfully through the best and the worst, through the difficult and the easy.  What may come, good or bad, I will always be there.  As I have given you my hand to hold, so I give you my life to keep.   I choose you to be my wife my partner in life and my one true love.  I give you this ring, as a daily reminder of my love for you, this day and every day.

When you look at these rings, remember the commitment that you are making to each other today. They show the world, that you love, and are loved by another.

A ring is a perfect circle, a symbol of unity, of wholeness, of completion. What were once two, separate and incomplete, have now become one, whole and undivided.

Irene and Sean, as you may already have come to know, when we love, we see things other people do not see. We see beneath the surface, to the qualities that make our beloved special and unique. To see with loving eyes, is to know inner beauty. And to be loved is to be seen and known, as we are known to no other.


Irene and Sean, you have decided to conclude your wedding with a Wine Box Ceremony.

Move to the table. Music

You have brought here today a strong wooden box. This box will hold a bottle of wine and two glasses. In addition, this box will hold intimate love letters, that you each have written to the other.  These letters express your thoughts of love on This your wedding day, they share intimate details about the good qualities that you have found in each other, they include the reasons that you fell in love with one another and what you would like to privately say to this person you love and are marrying today.

It should be emphasized that no one has read the letters but the author of each letter.  Irene and Sean, should you ever find your marriage enduring serious difficulties, you agree that before you make any irrational decisions, that you both, as a couple, will open the box, venture off into separates rooms with a glass of wine, to read the letters your that you wrote to one another when you were united as a couple.  By reading these love letters, you will be given an opportunity to reflect upon the reasons that you fell in love with each other in the first place.  Of course, the hope is that there will never be a reason for you to open this box. Until you open it together on your 5th anniversary! Read your letters, drink your wine and write new letters, put them into the box with these letters, seal it, and open again on your 10th anniversary. Repeating this every 5 years.

Irene and Sean, I now ask that you lock this box together, looking forward to its opening, 5 years from today.     

Return to me

Will everyone please rise

As you continue on your journey together, I ask you to remember this: Your most important commitment is to follow your heart, embrace trust, understanding, and giving Without ever keeping score, and knowing that your partners feeling always come first.

With these vows of love and trust, joining of hands,

and the giving and receiving of rings –

by the power vested in me by the Commonwealth of Massachusetts,

I now pronounce you husband and wife.

You may now kiss the bride.

 

Sample 13

Simple, Complete, with

Wine box, and Hands section

Getting RE-MARRIED

Good relationships never stop growing. Like fine wine, they get better with age.

Coleen and Rob , Life has given  you both a second chance at happiness. You come today to acknowledge that your love and respect for each other has only grown, and to seal your vows for your future together.

As you make this commitment today to love, honor and cherish each other. These promises will guide you  through all the years of your journey together.

No marriage is perfect. As you continue in this union, you already know that it will continue to take a lot of love and work to keep your relationship an ongoing success.

"We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly."

Look forward with great joy to spending the rest of your lives with each other, caring for each other, nurturing each other, being there for each other in all that life has for you both. 

As you continue on your journey together, I ask you to remember this advice:

Let your love be stronger than your anger.

Learn the wisdom of compromise, for it is better to bend than to break.

Believe the best of your beloved rather than the worst.

Confide in your partner and ask for help when you need it.

Remember that true friendship is the basis for any lasting relationship. Give your spouse the same courtesies and kindnesses you bestow on your friends.

Say "I love you" every day, and kiss each other goodnight, every night.

As you take your vows together today. You will be changed forever, may you both take them gladly, and without reservation. May  you promise to honor, believe in, protect, and do everything in your power to make each others life happy and fulfilled. Love each other more each day, create new experiences and memories and go with joy into your new life together.  This is your promise.

Vows:

Coleen and Rob I remind you that marriage is a precious gift; a lifelong dedication to love and a daily challenge to love one another more fully and more freely.

With this understanding,  Do you Rob take Coleen once again as your beloved wife?     I Do

With this understanding, do you Coleen take Rob as your beloved husband?  I do


Start just before giving of rings: 

Please join hands ... Squeeze please!

These are the hands of your best friend,

young and strong, and full of love for you.

These are the hands that are holding yours on your wedding day, as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow, and forever. 

These are the hands that will passionately love you,

and cherish you through the years,

and with the slightest touch, will comfort you like no other.

These are the hands that even when wrinkled with age, will still be reaching for yours, still giving the same unspoken tenderness, with just a touch.

Because of this love in your hearts, now you will seal your vows, by the re-giving and receiving of your original wedding rings. 

Reach with right hand and touch each other’s rings.

Coleen and Rob your rings are the outward symbols of your ongoing commitment to each other. These simple bands are one of the most important and lasting keepsakes any married couple can have, they are made precious by what they represent.

Rob, 

While touching the ring on Coleen’s finger, repeat after me,

From this day on, I give myself to you, and this ring is a symbol of my Love for you, and who we are together

I promise to wipe away your tears with my laughter,

and your pain with my caring and my compassion.

Coleen, I am proud to marry you this day, I give myself to you completely, and I promise to love you always.


Coleen,

While touching the ring on Rob’s finger and repeat after me,

From this day on, I give myself to you, and this ring is a symbol of my Love for you, and who we are together.

I promise to wipe away your tears with my laughter,

and your pain with my caring and my compassion.

Rob, I am proud to marry you this day, I give myself to you completely, and I promise to love you always.


Your rings say that you are two individuals bound together. They show the world, that you love, and are loved by another.


Closing

As you have consented together to be bound to one another in marriage.

You have made special promises to each other, which have been symbolized by the joining of hands, taking of vows and by giving and receiving rings.

Your most important commitment is to follow your heart, embrace trust, understanding, and giving without ever keeping score, and knowing that your partners feeling always come first.

Marriage is a beautiful tribute of your faith in each other.

Henceforth, you belong entirely each other.


By the authority vested in me by the Commonwealth of Massachusetts and the power of your love…

I have the pleasure to pronounce you once again,

husband and wife.

You may now kiss the bride.

The Short and Sweet Ceremony

Every marriage is unique and special. But all marriages thrive on love and understanding. Love is one of the greatest experiences we as humans can have. When we marry, we freely give everything we have, and in the end we get much more in return.    That quite simply, is the true definition

of love.


(turning to groom)

Do you GROOM take BRIDE as your wedded wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, both in sickness and in health, to love and cherish her for as long as you both shall live.     I do


(turning to bride)

Do you BRIDE take GROOM as your wedded husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, both in sickness and in health, to love and cherish him for as long as you both shall live.    I do


Please hold hands and squeeze …

These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong, and full of love for you. These are the hands that are holding yours on your wedding day, as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow, and forever.  The hands that will work alongside yours as together you both build your future.  These are the hands that will passionately love you, and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch, will comfort you like no other.  These are the hands that will hold you, when fear or grief enters your life.  The hands that will countless times, wipe tears of joy, and tears of sorrow from your eyes.  These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children.  The hands that will help hold your family together as one.  These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it.  The hands that even when wrinkled with age, will still be reaching for yours, still giving the same unspoken tenderness, with just a touch.

Because of this love in your hearts, you will now seal your vows 

by the giving and receiving of these rings. 

(hold rings in right hand, and hold left hands)

GROOM place the ring on BRIDES ’s finger and repeat after me:

This ring is a gift for you, it shows the world I love you.

I, GROOM choose you BRIDE to be my wife my partner in life and my one true love. I promise to be a true and loyal friend to you.. I will trust you and honor you. I will always first, give you the best of everything I have.  I will love you faithfully , I will cherish our friendship and promise to be your partner in all things. I give you this ring, as a daily reminder of my love for you, it symbolizes my desire, that you be my wife  from this day forward

BRIDE place the ring on GROOM’s finger and repeat after me:

This ring is a gift for you, it shows the world I love you.

I, BRIDE choose you GROOM to be my husband, my partner in life and my one true love. I promise to be a true and loyal friend to you.. I will trust you and honor you. I will always first, give you the best of everything I have.  I will love you faithfully , I will cherish our friendship and promise to be your partner in all things. I give you this ring, as a daily reminder of my love for you, it symbolizes my desire, that you be my husband  from this day forward.

As you have consented together to be bound to one another in marriage. Your most important commitment is to follow your heart, embrace trust, understanding, and giving Without ever keeping score, and knowing that your partners feeling always come first.

You have made special promises to each other, which have been symbolized by the joining of hands, taking of vows and by giving and receiving rings.


By the authority vested in me by the Commonwealth of Massachusetts and the power of your love… I have the pleasure to pronounce you husband and wife.

You may now kiss the bride.




The Short

(and not so Sweet)

Do you GROOM take BRIDE as your wedded wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, both in sickness and in health to love and cherish her for as long as you both shall live.   I do


Do you BRIDE take GROOM as your wedded husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, both in sickness and in health to love him for as long as you both shall live.  I do


Hold rings in right hand and hold left hands …


GROOM place the ring on BRIDE’s finger and repeat after me ...

This ring is a gift for you, it symbolizes my desire,  that you be my husband  from this day forward. 

I give you this ring, as a daily reminder of my love for you. 


BRIDE place the ring on GROOM’s finger and repeat after me ...

This ring is a gift for you, it symbolizes my desire,  that you be my husband  from this day forward. 

I give you this ring, as a daily reminder of my love for you. 


As you have consented together to be bound to one another in marriage, with the power of your love,  and by the authority vested in me by the Commonwealth of Massachusetts,

I have the pleasure to pronounce you husband and wife.


You may now kiss the bride.

Welcome, family, friends and loved ones.

  We are gathered here today to witness, and to celebrate, the joining of Linda  & Jennifer in the unity of marriage.  You have all come here to share in this formal commitment they make to one another, to offer your love and support to this union, and to allow Linda and Jennifer to start their married life together, surrounded by the people dearest and most important to them.  They thank you, for your presence here today, and for your support and blessings, in their decision to be married.  Today is the celebration of mutual respect, friendship, passion and unconditional love that two individuals, Linda  & Jennifer, share with each other.

Linda & Jennifer, are aware of their fortunate circumstance, they have found themselves blessed to be in a relationship founded on friendship and cemented in trust, respect and love. 

They’re entwined yet separate; unique individuals that compliment each other, and offer each other room for growth. 

Two people, encouraging each other, sharing in each other’s dreams and hopes.

Two people, supporting each other, unendingly, through both the sweet and the bitter times of life.  Two people, emerging as one from this day forward.

Linda & Jennifer have found in each other a relationship in which each person’s individuality is enhanced by the other, where each person can express her emotions without fear of being judged; a relationship where they openly share not only the joys of their successes, but also the sorrows of their failures; a relationship filled with mutual trust, respect and love.  They are two individuals living one life together.

I address you both  Linda & Jennifer…

this is your day and time.  Today you declare the love and commitment you have expressed to each other many times before.   We are concerned here with something more beautiful than just romance.

You two have decided to make the journey through life together, and to help each other make as much of it as two unique individuals can.   Your families, who have given you life and sustenance, are here with you.    Your friends are here standing with you.   Through all these people, you have become the two you are.    All of them support you as you join your lives together as one.

This union will bind you together for life in a relationship so close and so intimate that it will influence your whole future. That future with all of its hopes and disappointments, pleasures and pains, joys and sorrows, is hidden from your eyes. But with trust understanding, and giving without ever keeping score, this future will flourish.

Your most important commitment is to follow your heart, keeping your partners feeling always first.


Linda repeat after me while placing the ring on Elizabeth’s finger : This ring is a gift for you, it shows the world I love you.I, choose you Elizabeth to be my partner in life and my one true love.  I promise to be a true and loyal friend to you. I will trust you and honor you.    I will always first, give you the best of everything I have.   I will love you faithfully.  I will cherish our friendship and promise to be your partner in all things. I give you this ring, as a daily reminder of my love for you, it symbolizes my desire, that you be my wedded partner from this day forward.

Elizabeth place the ring on Linda’s finger and repeat after me:  This ring is a gift for you, it shows the world I love you.

I, choose you Linda to be my partner in life and my one true love.  I promise to be a true and loyal friend to you. I will trust you and honor you.    I will always first, give you the best of everything I have.  I will love you faithfully , I will cherish our friendship and promise to be your partner in all things. I give you this ring, as a daily reminder of my love for you, it symbolizes my desire, that you be my wedded partner from this day forward.

As you have consented together to be bound to one another in marriage. Your most important commitment is to follow your heart, embrace trust, understanding, and giving Without ever keeping score, and knowing that your partners feeling always come first.

You have made special promises to each other, which have been symbolized by the joining of hands, taking of vows and by giving and receiving rings.


By the authority vested in me by the Commonwealth of Massachusetts

and the power of your love…

I have the pleasure to pronounce you married partners for life.

You may now seal your vows with a kiss.


Sample:  Ceremony 6  


  Irish Hand-Fasting Cord Ceremony


We are gathered here today to witness the coming together of two people,  Diana and PJ,  whose hearts and spirits are entwined as one.

Love is one of the greatest experiences that we as humans can have, but it is when love is combined with real friendship that both are infinitely enhanced.

Marriage is a beautiful tribute of your faith in each other. Henceforth you belong to entirely each other. You will be one in Mind, one in Heart, and one in Affection. Whatever sacrifices you may have to make to preserve this common life, always make them generously.

This union will bind you together for life,  in a relationship so close and so intimate that it will influence your whole future. That future, with all of its hopes and disappointments, pleasures and pains, joys and sorrows, is hidden from your eyes.

By the keeping of the solemn vows you are about to take, your life will be full of peace and joy, and the home you establish, will be a place in which you both will find serenity as you grow, and the trust and freedom you grant each other, will only be measured by the responsibility held by your accepting these vows.

And so I now ask of you PJ :    are the vows in which you are about to take of your own free will and consent?       (yes)

And so I now ask you Dian:   are the vows in which you are about to take of your own free will and consent?       (yes)

Turning to the Groom:

Do you PJ take Diana to be your Wife?  Do you promise to love her without reservation, honor and respect her, comfort her in times of sorrow, encourage her to achieve all of her goals, laugh with her, cry with her, grow with her spirit, always be open and honest with her and be with her for as long as you both shall live?

( I Do)

Turning to the Bride:

Do you Diana take PJ to be your Husband?  Do you promise to love him without reservation, honor and respect him, comfort him in times of sorrow, encourage him to achieve all of his goals, laugh with him, cry with him, grow with his spirit, always be open and honest with him and be with him for as long as you both shall live?

( I Do)

May I have the rings, please? (Hold in right hands, join left hands.)

A ring is an unbroken circle, a symbol of unity and love, representative of the greater circle of life of which we all spiritually are a part of.   Having neither beginning nor end, but a continuous cycle, which you both are an element.  For you  both , it now begins with the gift of the life you promise each other, and will continue for as long as you both shall live.

These simple bands are one of the most important and lasting keepsakes any married couple can have, they are made precious by what they represent.

Repeat after me …. I, PJ take you Diana to be my wife,  my partner in life and my one true love.  I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever.  I will trust you and honor you.  As I have given you my hand to hold, so I give you my life to keep. I give you this ring, as a daily reminder of my love for you. Will you Diana accept this ring as a loving symbol of PJ’s vows this day?

Answer: “I WILL”


  Repeat after me …. I, Diana take you PJ to be my husband,  my partner in life and my one true love.  I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever.  I will trust you and honor you.  As I have given you my hand to hold, so I give you my life to keep. I give you this ring, as a daily reminder of my love for you. Will you PJ accept this ring as a loving symbol of PJ’s vows this day?

Answer: “I WILL”


Braided Cord Ceremony           

The Short and Sweet Ceremony  

 Every marriage is unique and special. But all marriages thrive on love and understanding. When we marry, we freely give everything we have, and in the end we get much more in return. That quite simply, is the true definition of love.

( turning to groom)
Do you Kevin take Sabine as your wedded wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, both in sickness and in health to love and cherish her for as long as you both shall live.  Kevin - I do

(turning to bride)
Do you Sabine take Kevin as your wedded husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, both in sickness and in health to love and cherish him for as long as you both shall live.  Sabine – I do

Please hold hands and squeeze …
These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong, and full of love for you. These are the hands that are holding yours on your wedding day, as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow, and forever.  The hands that will work alongside yours as together you both build your future.  These are the hands that will passionately love you, and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch, will comfort you like no other.  These are the hands that will hold you, when fear or grief enters your life.  The hands that will countless times, wipe tears of joy, and tears of sorrow from your eyes.  These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children.  The hands that will help hold your family together as one.  These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it.  The hands that even when wrinkled with age, will still be reaching for yours, still giving the same unspoken tenderness, with just a touch.
Having this love in your hearts, you have chosen to seal your vows, by the blessing, and giving and receiving of rings.  

Kevin place the ring on Sabine’s finger and repeat after me:
I, Kevin take you Sabine to be my wife, my partner in life and my one true love.  I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever. I will trust you and honor you.   I will laugh with you and cry with you.  I will love you faithfully.  What may come I will always be there.  This ring is a gift for you, it symbolizes my desire, that you be my wife  from this day forward.   As this ring has no end,  neither shall my love for you.  I give you this ring, as a daily reminder of my love for you.   
 As I have given you my hand to hold, so I give you my life to keep. 

Sabine place the ring on Kevin’s finger and repeat after me:
I, Sabine take you Kevin to be my Husband, my partner in life and my one true love.  I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever.  I will trust you and honor you.   I will laugh with you and cry with you.  I will love you faithfully. What may come I will always be there.  This ring is a gift for you, it symbolizes my desire,  that you be my husband  from this day forward.   As this ring has no end,  neither shall my love for you.  I give you this ring, as a daily reminder of my love for you.  As I have given you my hand to hold, so I give you my life to keep.

As you have consented together to be bound to one another in marriage. Your most important commitment is to follow your heart, embrace trust, understanding, and giving Without ever keeping score, and knowing that your partners feeling always come first.
You have made special promises to each other, which have been symbolized by the joining of hands, taking of vows and by giving and receiving rings.

By the authority vested in me by the Commonwealth of Massachusetts and the power of your love… I have the pleasure to pronounce you husband and wife. 
You may now kiss the bride.

The Short (and not so Sweet)

( turning to groom)
Do you Jay take Anne as your wedded wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, both in sickness and in health to love and cherish her for as long as you both shall live.
Jay - I do

(Turning to bride)
Do you Anne take Jay as your wedded husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, both in sickness and in health to love him for as long as you both shall live.
Anne – I do

Jay place the ring on Anne’s finger and repeat after me ...
This ring is a gift for you, it symbolizes my desire,  that you be my husband  from this day forward.  
I give you this ring, as a daily reminder of my love for you.  

Anne place the ring on Jay’s finger and repeat after me ...
This ring is a gift for you, it symbolizes my desire,  that you be my husband  from this day forward.  
I give you this ring, as a daily reminder of my love for you.  

As you have consented together to be bound to one another in marriage.  By the authority vested in me by the Commonwealth of Massachusetts and the power of your love… 

I have the pleasure to pronounce you husband and wife. 

You may now kiss the bride.

(Note: this can also be done with a single cord / rope)

The braided cord ceremony comes from practices that were prevalent in Ireland centuries ago.  In olden times, rings were not always exchanged during a marriage ceremony.

A rope was used to bind the couple together into the bonds of marriage. The rope is then formed into a knot. It is to remain tied and be kept in the home to remind the couple of their vows to each other.

This is also where the saying,  tying the knot comes from.


“Today, PJ and Diane have chosen to braid three strands together into a single cord. Each strand has a significant meaning.  According to Irish lore: The white in the center signifies a lasting truce between the Orange and the Green.

The green strand represents the groom and his individual life.

The orange strand represents the bride and her individual life. .

The white strand represents this marriage and all it’s love.

In braiding these three strands together,  Diane and PJ have demonstrated that their marriage is more than a joining of two individual lives together. It is a unity with love and understanding at the center of their marriage, woven into every aspect of it. They have chosen that their love, and respect, for each other will be woven together as ONE in marriage.”

( Hold hands right to right left to left wrist crossed, as knot is tied. )

Wrapping of the hands is an ancient Celtic tradition, known as Handfasting.  The hands convey the love and warmth of the heart, while the infinity knot in the shape of a figure eight, is a symbol that conveys “forever”.

The wrapping of their hands also symbolizes the bringing together of their lives in a marriage of strength and unity.

( as knot is tied )

The braided cord is wound around the wrists over the top of one and under and around the other, thus creating the infinity symbol.

This ritual, referred to earlier, as the origin of the term tying the knot.

Know now that since your lives have crossed, you have formed ties between each other. The promises you make today, and the ties that are bound here, will cross the years and greatly strengthen your union.  With full awareness, know that you declare your intent to be Hand-fasted, before your friends and families.

The knots of this binding are not formed by these cords, but rather by your vows. For always, you hold in your own hands the making or breaking of this union.

(Conclusion)

Here life is touched by love and love by life, radiating joy,  like the warmth from fire. Here now, between PJ and Diana, lies hidden all the future of their lives together.  May that future be blessed with deepening love. May they trust each other wholly, as they trust themselves, so that together they are equal to the needs of their tomorrows.  May they be at home wherever they dwell,  and gather wisdom from all the seasons of their lives.


As you have consented together to be bound to one another in marriage. You have made special promises to each other, which have been symbolized by the joining of hands, taking of vows, and by giving and receiving rings.

As you continue on your journey together, I ask you to remember this advice: - Your most important commitment is to follow your heart, embrace trust, understanding, and giving without ever keeping score, and knowing that your partners feeling always come first.

May then, this love in which you have joined your hands and hearts today, never fail, but grow deeper and stronger as the years go on.


By the power of your love and commitment, and by the authority vested in me, according to the laws of The Commonwealth of Massachusetts.

I now pronounce you married, and you may seal your vows with a kiss.


Please rise and welcome, The New Mr. and Mrs.



 

Sample:  Ceremony 7  

with Children Included

Welcome

We are gathered here today to witness the coming together of two people,

Chris and Ed, whose hearts and spirits are now entwined as one.

Every marriage is unique and special. But all marriages thrive on love and understanding.   When we marry, we freely give everything we have, and in the end we get much more in return.  That quite simply, is the true definition of love.

This is a union not to be entered into lightly.   It is a sacred commitment between two people, responsible only unto each other, held true by their own free will, and their individual ideas of values and beliefs.  Love is one of the greatest experiences that we as humans can have, but it is when love is combined with real friendship, that both are infinitely enhanced.  

Chris and Ed have found in each other, a relationship in which each person’s individuality is enhanced by the other, where each person can express his or her emotions, without fear of being judged, a relationship where they openly share not only the joys of their successes, but also the sorrows of their failures,  a relationship filled with mutual trust, respect, and love. They are two individuals, living one life together.

You are now taking into your care and keeping,   the happiness of the one person in the world whom you love best.   You are adding to your life, not only the affection of each other, but also the companionship and blessing, of a deep trust as well.

You are agreeing to share strength, responsibilities and your love.

Marriage is a beautiful tribute of your faith in each other.  Henceforth you belong entirely to each other.    You will be one in mind, one in heart, and one in affection.

Whatever sacrifices you may have to make, to preserve this common life, always make them generously. 

May then your love in which you have joined, as you join your hands and hearts today, never fail,  but grow deeper and stronger as the years go on.


(turn to Ed)

And so I now ask of you:

Ed are these vows in which you are about to take, of your own free will and consent.

ED:    Yes


(turn to Chris)

And so now I ask of you:

Chris are these vows in which you are about to take, of your own free will and consent.

Chris:    Yes


Chris and Ed.....  Today you are not only promising your love to one another, but you are also pledging your love to your children as well, committing to them that you will create a safe, loving, and happy, family together.

Today as you become man and wife, you also begin a new life together as a family.  Do you promise to be there for them, no matter what circumstances life brings, to commit yourselves to everyone from this day forward, to accept, protect and love them all your lives, and respect them enough to allow them to see the world through their eyes?        (Answer: Yes)


For you, the families of these two people, this is a special day in your lives as well. You have gathered to celebrate and share this joyous occasion. When a couple in love pledge their hearts to each other, they not only create a home and a family of their own, they also carry with them the support, good will, and hopes of all that care for them as individuals.  By uniting together, each of you join the family of the other - to bare its strengths and promise into the future.  Having this acknowledged is an important matter.  For this reason, I would now ask this of your family:

speak to children:      Joe, Stacy, Kelli, Alex, and Mary,    you will have a share in this union, and are a vital part of this new marriage.  Your Mother and your Father have given you all their unconditional love, and honor your presence in their lives.  

You have an important part to play in the happiness of this new family.

As your Mother and Father exchange their pledges in sacred union, we ask  from all of you, to also offer a promise: that you will join together to create a home where you each help and support each other, creating a new way of life, in which all of you may grow into the fullness of the best people you can be.


I will now ask you all to promise,  to do your best to help make a happy and successful home for all of you,  by your love and cooperation.


Do you, Joe, Kelli and Alex, accept this family union of lifelong love - And thereby, all as your own, do you promise to support this marriage and your new family, as you encourage and support each other,  in your new life together?

(answer: YES)

Do you, Stacy and Mary, accept this family union of lifelong love - And thereby, all as your own, do you promise to support this marriage and your new family, as you encourage and support each other in your new life together?

(answer: YES)


Exchange of Rings: hold ring in right hand, hold left hands

Rings are a symbol of the unbroken circle of love.  Love given freely has no beginning and no end. May these rings always remind you of this day and your never-ending love. May the beauty of these rings represent a love,  glowing with increasing luster through the years.


Ed repeat after me. While placing the ring on Chris’s finger:

I give you this ring,  wear it with love and joy. As this ring has no end, neither shall my love for you. I choose you to be my wife this day and every day.


Chris repeat after me. While placing the ring on Ed’s finger:

I give you this ring,  wear it with love and joy. As this ring has no end, neither shall my love for you.  I choose you to be my husband this day and every day.


Exchange of Vows:  Turning to the Groom:

Do you Ed take Chris to be your Wife?  Do you promise to love her without reservation, honor and respect her, comfort her in times of sorrow, encourage her to achieve all of her goals, laugh with her, cry with her, grow with her spirit, always be open and honest with her, and be with her for as long as you both shall live?

(Ed - I Do)

Turning to the Bride:

Do you Chris take Ed to be your Husband?  Do you promise to love him without reservation, honor and respect him, comfort him in times of sorrow, encourage him to achieve all of his goals, laugh with him, cry with him, grow with his spirit, always be open and honest with him, and be with him for as long as you both shall live?

(Chris  - I Do)

The Short and Sweet Ceremony  

 Every marriage is unique and special. But all marriages thrive on love and understanding. When we marry, we freely give everything we have, and in the end we get much more in return. That quite simply, is the true definition of love.

( turning to groom)
Do you Kevin take Sabine as your wedded wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, both in sickness and in health to love and cherish her for as long as you both shall live.  Kevin - I do

(turning to bride)
Do you Sabine take Kevin as your wedded husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, both in sickness and in health to love and cherish him for as long as you both shall live.  Sabine – I do

Please hold hands and squeeze …
These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong, and full of love for you. These are the hands that are holding yours on your wedding day, as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow, and forever.  The hands that will work alongside yours as together you both build your future.  These are the hands that will passionately love you, and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch, will comfort you like no other.  These are the hands that will hold you, when fear or grief enters your life.  The hands that will countless times, wipe tears of joy, and tears of sorrow from your eyes.  These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children.  The hands that will help hold your family together as one.  These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it.  The hands that even when wrinkled with age, will still be reaching for yours, still giving the same unspoken tenderness, with just a touch.
Having this love in your hearts, you have chosen to seal your vows, by the blessing, and giving and receiving of rings.  

Kevin place the ring on Sabine’s finger and repeat after me:
I, Kevin take you Sabine to be my wife, my partner in life and my one true love.  I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever. I will trust you and honor you.   I will laugh with you and cry with you.  I will love you faithfully.  What may come I will always be there.  This ring is a gift for you, it symbolizes my desire, that you be my wife  from this day forward.   As this ring has no end,  neither shall my love for you.  I give you this ring, as a daily reminder of my love for you.   
 As I have given you my hand to hold, so I give you my life to keep. 

Sabine place the ring on Kevin’s finger and repeat after me:
I, Sabine take you Kevin to be my Husband, my partner in life and my one true love.  I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever.  I will trust you and honor you.   I will laugh with you and cry with you.  I will love you faithfully. What may come I will always be there.  This ring is a gift for you, it symbolizes my desire,  that you be my husband  from this day forward.   As this ring has no end,  neither shall my love for you.  I give you this ring, as a daily reminder of my love for you.  As I have given you my hand to hold, so I give you my life to keep.

As you have consented together to be bound to one another in marriage. Your most important commitment is to follow your heart, embrace trust, understanding, and giving Without ever keeping score, and knowing that your partners feeling always come first.
You have made special promises to each other, which have been symbolized by the joining of hands, taking of vows and by giving and receiving rings.

By the authority vested in me by the Commonwealth of Massachusetts and the power of your love… I have the pleasure to pronounce you husband and wife. 
You may now kiss the bride.

The Short (and not so Sweet)

( turning to groom)
Do you Jay take Anne as your wedded wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, both in sickness and in health to love and cherish her for as long as you both shall live.
Jay - I do

(Turning to bride)
Do you Anne take Jay as your wedded husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, both in sickness and in health to love him for as long as you both shall live.
Anne – I do

Jay place the ring on Anne’s finger and repeat after me ...
This ring is a gift for you, it symbolizes my desire,  that you be my husband  from this day forward.  
I give you this ring, as a daily reminder of my love for you.  

Anne place the ring on Jay’s finger and repeat after me ...
This ring is a gift for you, it symbolizes my desire,  that you be my husband  from this day forward.  
I give you this ring, as a daily reminder of my love for you.  

As you have consented together to be bound to one another in marriage.  By the authority vested in me by the Commonwealth of Massachusetts and the power of your love… 

I have the pleasure to pronounce you husband and wife. 

You may now kiss the bride.

Sand Ceremony

     Ed and Chris, you have just sealed your relationship by the giving and receiving of rings and this covenant is a relationship pledge between two people who agree that they will commit themselves to one another throughout their lives. The most beautiful example of this partnership is the marriage relationship. You have committed here today to share the rest of your lives with each other. Today, this relationship is symbolized through the pouring of these two individual containers of sand, one representing you, Ed, and all that you were, all that you are, and all that you will ever be, and the other representing you, Chris, and all that you were and all that you are, and all that you will ever be. As these two containers of sand are poured into the third container, the individual containers of sand will no longer exist, but will be joined together as one. Just as these grains of sand can never be separated and poured again into the containers, so will you both be joined as one in your marriage.

Closing Words:

Here life is touched by love, and love by life, radiating joy like the warmth from fire. Here now, between Ed and Chris, lies hidden all the future of their lives together.

May that future be blessed with deepening love. May they trust each other wholly, as they trust themselves, so that together they are equal to the needs of their tomorrows. May they be at home wherever they dwell, and gather wisdom from all the seasons of their lives and support each other through all of life’s adventures.

As you have consented together to be bound to one another in marriage. You have made special promises to each other, which have been symbolized by the joining of hands, taking of vows and by giving and receiving rings.


By the authority vested in me by the Commonwealth of Massachusetts, and the power of your love ... I now pronounce you husband and wife.


You may kiss the bride.

I have the pleasure to welcome and present: Mr. and Mrs. .............

Note: There is a Family Sand Ceremony at the bottom of this page.

       

 

Sample:  Ceremony 5


We gather here today to celebrate the wedding of Stephanie and Barrett.

You have all come here to share in this formal commitment they make to one another, to offer your love and support to this union, and to allow this Bride and Groom to start their married life together, surrounded by the people dearest and most important to them.

So welcome to one and all, family, friends and loved ones,

Stephanie and Barrett have asked me to thank you all for your presence here today, especially to those of you who have travelled a great distance, making such an effort to share this day with us, and to be a part of this celebration.

Last but not least, they would also like to thank each and every member of their wedding party.  You have helped them with so many details, and given them the emotional support they so needed during the past months, they can’t begin to tell you how honored they are, that they mean so much to you.

Your presence and participation makes their celebration truly exceptional!

They now welcome your blessing, encouragement, and lifelong support, for their decision to be married.


Marriage is perhaps the greatest and most challenging adventure of human relationships.

We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see the imperfect, perfectly.

No ceremony can create your marriage; only you can do that, through love and patience; through dedication and perseverance; through talking and listening, helping, supporting and believing in each other; through tenderness and laughter; through learning to forgive, learning to appreciate your differences, and by learning to make the important things matter, and to let go of the rest.


What this ceremony can do, is to witness, and affirm, the choice you make to stand together as lifetime partners, taking pride in who you are, both separately and together.

Many couples tend to think of marriage as a 50/50 proposition. Actually, the best relationships are 90/10.  If you both will give 90 percent and take only 10 percent, you will have a the formula that is likely to continue to bring both of you, happiness for a lifetime.

As you continue on your journey together, I ask you to remember this advice: -Your most important commitment is to follow your heart, embrace trust, understanding, and giving without ever keeping score, and knowing that your partners feeling always come first.

Let your love be stronger than your anger.

Learn the wisdom of compromise, for it is better to bend than to break.

Believe the best of your beloved, rather than the worst.

Confide in your partner, and ask for help when you need it.

Remember that true friendship is the basis for any lasting relationship.

Give your spouse the same courtesies and kindnesses, which you bestow on your friends… and Never go to sleep mad ... stay up and fight, and ... Say "I love you" every day.

 

Readings  (face the reader)

In the spirit of the importance of strong friendships to a marriage, Stephanie and Barrett have asked a friend,  to read selections about love, that especially resonate with them.

(reading here)


Two people in love do not live in isolation.

Their love is a source of strength, with which they may nourish not only each other, but also the world around them.

And in turn, we, their community of friends and family, have a responsibility to this couple.


By our steadfast care, respect, and love, we can support their marriage, and the new family they are creating today.

Let us all keep in mind, that the grass is always greener ... when it’s watered.


(face gathering)

Will everyone please rise.

You may answer by saying “WE WILL or  WE DO where appropriate”

Will you who are present here today, surround Barrett and Stephanie in love, offering them the joys of your friendship, while supporting them in their marriage?

All: We will


At times of conflict will you offer them the strength of your wisest counsel, and the comfort of your thoughtful concern while helping them cross through those stressful times?

All:  We will


Will you, their loved ones, family, and friends, agree to help them keep the bonds they commit to today, reminding them of their love for one another, and in times of joy, will you celebrate with them, thereby nourishing their love for one another?

All:  We will


Do you who are assembled here support this union and affirm that these two should be married today?

All:  We Do

Please be seated.  

We've come to the point of your ceremony where you're going to say your vows to one another.

But before you do that, I ask you to remember that love, which is rooted in trust, and acceptance, will be the foundation of an enduring and deepening relationship. 

No other ties are as tender, no other vows more sacred, than those you now assume.


If you are able to keep the vows you take here today, not because of any religious or civic law, but out of a desire to love and be loved by another person fully, without limitation, then your life will have joy, and the home you establish, will be a place in which you both will find serenity as you grow, and the trust and freedom you grant each other, will only be measured by the responsibility held by your accepting these vows.


Presentation of vows (give flowers to Maid)

May I have the rings, please? (Hold in right hands, join left hands.)


The wedding ring is an unbroken, never-ending circle, as your commitment and love for each other is never-ending.    

These simple bands are one of the most important and lasting keepsakes any married couple can have, they are made precious by what they represent.

They are a symbol to you and to the world of your union. Your rings say that you are two individuals bound together.

When you look at these rings, remember the commitment that you are making to each other today. They show the world, that you love, and are loved by another.


Barrett place the ring on Stephanie’s finger and repeat after me:

I, Barrett take you Stephanie to be my wife,  my partner in life and my one true love.  I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever.  I will trust you and honor you.   I will laugh with you and cry with you.  I will love you faithfully through the best and the worst, through the difficult and the easy.  What may come I will always be there.  As I have given you my hand to hold, so I give you my life to keep.

I give you this ring, as a daily reminder of my love for you.


Stephanie place the ring on Barrett’s finger and repeat after me:

I, Stephanie take you Barrett to be my Husband,  my partner in life and my one true love.  I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever.  I will trust you and honor you.   I will laugh with you and cry with you.  I will love you faithfully through the best and the worst, through the difficult and the easy.  What may come I will always be there.  As I have given you my hand to hold, so I give you my life to keep.

I give you this ring, as a daily reminder of my love for you.

(Music) Private Vow message of each presented here


We have spent many hours, preparing for this day, and this ceremony. There are many words of advice spoken here today, and all are very valid to the happiness of this couple.  Knowing personal words spoken from the heart cut deepest, I have given Stephanie and Barrett a special task. I have asked them to write a small statement, a message of there feelings, from their heart to each others, and to keep it private from each other, until this part of the vows. They will now read these special vows to each other, for the first time :

          Barrett – Stephanie

         Stephanie - Barrett

I Do’s

(turning to groom)

Do you Barrett take Stephanie as your wedded wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, both in sickness and in health, to love and cherish her for as long as you both shall live.     Barrett: I do

(Turning to bride)

Do you Stephanie take Barrett as your wedded husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, both in sickness and in health, to love and cherish him for as long as you both shall live.

Stephanie: I do 

Unity Candle Ceremony (Music)

Before we started this unique and beautiful ceremony, the Bride and Groom’s Mothers lit two small candles representing their child which have been burning
Sample  Ceremony 7   ...  with Children Included

 Welcome
We are gathered here today to witness the coming together of two people, Chris and Ed,  whose hearts and spirits are now entwined as one.
Every marriage is unique and special. But all marriages thrive on love and understanding.   When we marry, we freely give everything we have, and in the end we get much more in return.  That quite simply, is the true definition of love.
This is a union not to be entered into lightly.   It is a sacred commitment between two people, responsible only unto each other, held true by their own free will, and their individual ideas of values and beliefs.  Love is one of the greatest experiences that we as humans can have, but it is when love is combined with real friendship that both are infinitely enhanced.   
Chris and Ed have found in each other a relationship in which each person’s individuality is enhanced by the other, where each person can express his or her emotions without fear of being judged,  a relationship where they openly share not only the joys of their successes, but also the sorrows of their failures,  a relationship filled with mutual trust, respect, and love. They are two individuals, living one life together.
You are now taking into your care and keeping,   the happiness of the one person in the world whom you love best.  You are adding to your life, not only the affection of each other, but also the companionship and blessing, of a deep trust as well.   You are agreeing to share strength, responsibilities and your love
Marriage is a beautiful tribute of your faith in each other.  Henceforth you belong entirely to each other.    You will be one in mind, one in heart, and one in affection.
Whatever sacrifices you may have to make to preserve this common life, always make them generously.  May then your love in which you have joined, as you join your hands and hearts today, never fail, but grow deeper and stronger as the years go on.

(turn to Ed)
And so I now ask of you: 
Ed are these vows in which you are about to take, of your own free will and consent.
ED:    Yes

(turn to Chris)
And so now I ask of you:
Chris are these vows in which you are about to take, of your own free will and consent.
Chris:    Yes 

Acknowledging Children
Chris and Ed, today you are not only promising your love to one another, but you are also pledging your love to your children as well, committing to them that you will create a safe, loving, and happy, family together. 

Chris and Ed repeat after me:  (Note if you would prefer to read this section I will print just this out)
Joe Stacy Kelly Alex and Mary We love you. Today as we become man and wife, we also will become a true family. We will begin a new life together as a family. We  promise to be faithful to you, and a loving Mother and  Father, we will always be there for you, no matter what circumstances life brings our way, with each others  help,  we will face them all together as a family. We commit ourselves to ALL OF YOU, from this day forward and forevermore. We promise to accept, protect, and love you, all of our lives. We promise to do our best to guide and support you - and to respect you enough to allow you to see the world through your own eyes.



UNITING OF FAMILIES:
For you, the families of these two people, this is a special day in your lives as well. You have gathered to celebrate and share this joyous occasion. When a couple in love pledge their hearts to each other, they not only create a home and a family of their own, they also carry with them the support, good will, and hopes of all that care for them as individuals.  By uniting together, each of you join the family of the other - to bare its strengths and promise into the future.  Having this acknowledged is an important matter.  For this reason, I would ask this of your family:
 speak to children:
Joe, Stacy, Kelly, Alex, and Mary, you will have a share in this union and are a vital part of this new marriage. Your Mother and your Father have given you all their unconditional love, and honor your presence in their lives.. You have an important part to play in the happiness of this new family. 
As your Mother and Father exchange their pledges in sacred union, we ask
from all of you, to also offer a promise: that you will join together to create a home where you each help and support each other, creating a new way of life in which all of you may grow into the fullness of the best people you can be. 

Will you now promise to do your best to help make a happy and successful home for all of you, by your love and cooperation?

Do you, Joe, Kelli and Alex, accept this family union of lifelong love - And thereby, all as your own, do you promise to love, honor, and respect your new parent, and promise to support their marriage and your new family as you encourage and support each other in your new life together?
 (answer: YES)

Do you, Stacy and Mary, accept this family union of lifelong love - And thereby, all as your own, do you promise to love, honor, and respect your new parent, and promise to support their marriage and your new family as you encourage and support each other in your new life together?
(answer: YES)

Exchange of Rings:
hold ring in right hand, hold left hands 
Rings are a symbol of the unbroken circle of love.  Love given freely has no beginning and no end. May these rings always remind you of this day and your never-ending love. May the beauty of these rings represent a love glowing with increasing luster through the years.

ED repeat after me. While placing the ring on Chris’s finger:
I give you this ring; wear it with love and joy. As this ring has no end, neither shall my love for you. I choose you to be my wife this day and every day.


CHRIS repeat after me. While placing the ring on Ed’s finger:
I give you this ring; wear it with love and joy. As this ring has no end, neither shall my love for you.  I choose you to be my husband this day and every day.

Exchange of Vows:  
Turning to the Groom:
Do you Ed take Chris to be your Wife?  Do you promise to love her without reservation, honor and respect her, comfort her in times of sorrow, encourage her to achieve all of her goals, laugh with her, cry with her, grow with her spirit, always be open and honest with her and be with her for as long as you both shall live?
(Ed - I Do)
Turning to the Bride:
Do you Chris take Ed to be your Husband?  Do you promise to love him without reservation, honor and respect him, comfort him in times of sorrow, encourage him to achieve all of his goals, laugh with him, cry with him, grow with his spirit, always be open and honest with him and be with him for as long as you both shall live?
(Chris  - I Do)

Sand Ceremony
      Ed and Chris, you have just sealed your relationship by the giving and receiving of rings, and this covenant is a relationship pledge between two people who agree that they will commit themselves to one another throughout their lives. The most beautiful example of this marriage relationship is the partnership this family has promised to each other. You have all committed here today to share the rest of your lives with each other. Today, this relationship will be symbolized through the pouring of these individual containers of sand, representing each of you, and all that you are as an individual.  As these containers of sand are poured into the third container, the individual containers of sand will no longer exist, but will be joined together as one. As these grains of sand come together,  they can never be separated and poured again, so will this marriage and this family, be joined as one. 
Will you all pick up your color 

All pick up their containers
Each container is unique, representing who you are.  Will each of you please pour some sand into this larger glass container along with your good wishes,  when I ask you to: 
1.Father (1/2)  
2. Mother (1/2) 
3. Children (1/2) 
by age old to young   Note: each pour 1/2 of their container on top of the others, and after completion, all pour together blending colors.
4. Father & Mother together
Father and Mother are the foundation of this family, each child will be the foundation for their younger brother or sister. As the different colors will join together to form something quite beautiful, so to you are all joined together today, not only in marriage, but as family.


Closing Words:
Here life is touched by love and love by life, radiating joy like the warmth from fire. Here now, between Ed and Chris, lies hidden all the future of their lives together. 
May that future be blessed with deepening love. May they trust each other wholly, as they trust themselves, so that together they are equal to the needs of their tomorrows. May they be at home wherever they dwell, and gather wisdom from all the seasons of their lives and support each other through all of life’s adventures.

As you have consented together to be bound to one another in marriage. You have made special promises to each other, which have been symbolized by the joining of hands, taking of vows and by giving and receiving rings.
By the authority vested in me by the Commonwealth of Massachusetts,
and the power of your love ... I now pronounce you husband and wife.
You may kiss the bride.
 


Sample  Ceremony 8   

  Irish Hand-Fasting Cord Ceremony

We are gathered here today to witness the coming together of two people,  Diana and PJ,  whose hearts and spirits are entwined as one.
Love is one of the greatest experiences that we as humans can have, but it is when love is combined with real friendship that both are infinitely enhanced.
Marriage is a beautiful tribute of your faith in each other. Henceforth you belong to entirely each other. You will be one in Mind, one in Heart, and one in Affection. Whatever sacrifices you may have to make to preserve this common life, always make them generously.
This union will bind you together for life,  in a relationship so close and so intimate that it will influence your whole future. That future, with all of its hopes and disappointments, pleasures and pains, joys and sorrows, is hidden from your eyes.
 By the keeping of the solemn vows you are about to take, your life will be full of peace and joy, and the home you establish, will be a place in which you both will find serenity as you grow, and the trust and freedom you grant each other, will only be measured by the responsibility held by your accepting these vows.
And so I now ask of you PJ :    are the vows in which you are about to take of your own free will and consent?       (yes)
And so I now ask you Dian:   are the vows in which you are about to take of your own free will and consent?       (yes)
Turning to the Groom:
Do you PJ take Diana to be your Wife?  Do you promise to love her without reservation, honor and respect her, comfort her in times of sorrow, encourage her to achieve all of her goals, laugh with her, cry with her, grow with her spirit, always be open and honest with her and be with her for as long as you both shall live?
( I Do)
Turning to the Bride:
Do you Diana take PJ to be your Husband?  Do you promise to love him without reservation, honor and respect him, comfort him in times of sorrow, encourage him to achieve all of his goals, laugh with him, cry with him, grow with his spirit, always be open and honest with him and be with him for as long as you both shall live?
( I Do)
May I have the rings, please? (Hold in right hands, join left hands.)
A ring is an unbroken circle, a symbol of unity and love, representative of the greater circle of life of which we all spiritually are a part of.   Having neither beginning nor end, but a continuous cycle, which you both are an element.  For you  both , it now begins with the gift of the life you promise each other, and will continue for as long as you both shall live.
These simple bands are one of the most important and lasting keepsakes any married couple can have, they are made precious by what they represent. 
Repeat after me …. I, PJ take you Diana to be my wife,  my partner in life and my one true love.  I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever.  I will trust you and honor you.  As I have given you my hand to hold, so I give you my life to keep. I give you this ring, as a daily reminder of my love for you. Will you Diana accept this ring as a loving symbol of PJ’s vows this day?
Answer: “I WILL”

  Repeat after me …. I, Diana take you PJ to be my husband,  my partner in life and my one true love.  I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever.  I will trust you and honor you.  As I have given you my hand to hold, so I give you my life to keep. I give you this ring, as a daily reminder of my love for you. Will you PJ accept this ring as a loving symbol of PJ’s vows this day?
Answer: “I WILL”
Braided Cord Ceremony 
 (Note: this can also be done with a single cord / rope)
The braided cord ceremony comes from practices that were prevalent in Ireland centuries ago.  In olden times, rings were not always exchanged during a marriage ceremony.
A rope was used to bind the couple together into the bonds of marriage. The rope is then formed into a knot. It is to remain tied and be kept in the home to remind the couple of their vows to each other.
This is also where the saying,  tying the knot comes from.

“Today, PJ and Diane have chosen to braid three strands together into a single cord. Each strand has a significant meaning.  According to Irish lore: The white in the center signifies a lasting truce between the Orange and the Green.
The green strand represents the groom and his individual life. 
The orange strand represents the bride and her individual life. . 
The white strand represents this marriage and all it’s love. 
In braiding these three strands together,  Diane and PJ have demonstrated that their marriage is more than a joining of two individual lives together. It is a unity with love and understanding at the center of their marriage, woven into every aspect of it. They have chosen that their love, and respect, for each other will be woven together as ONE in marriage.”
( Hold hands right to right left to left wrist crossed, as knot is tied. )
Wrapping of the hands is an ancient Celtic tradition, known as Handfasting.  The hands convey the love and warmth of the heart, while the infinity knot in the shape of a figure eight, is a symbol that conveys “forever”. 
The wrapping of their hands also symbolizes the bringing together of their lives in a marriage of strength and unity.
 ( as knot is tied )
 The braided cord is wound around the wrists over the top of one and under and around the other, thus creating the infinity symbol. 
This ritual, referred to earlier, as the origin of the term tying the knot. 
Know now that since your lives have crossed, you have formed ties between each other. The promises you make today, and the ties that are bound here, will cross the years and greatly strengthen your union.  With full awareness, know that you declare your intent to be Handfasted, before your friends and families.
The knots of this binding are not formed by these cords, but rather by your vows. For always, you hold in your own hands the making or breaking of this union.
(Conclusion)
Here life is touched by love and love by life, radiating joy,  like the warmth from fire. Here now, between PJ and Diana, lies hidden all the future of their lives together.  May that future be blessed with deepening love. May they trust each other wholly, as they trust themselves, so that together they are equal to the needs of their tomorrows.  May they be at home wherever they dwell,  and gather wisdom from all the seasons of their lives.

As you have consented together to be bound to one another in marriage. You have made special promises to each other, which have been symbolized by the joining of hands, taking of vows, and by giving and receiving rings.
As you continue on your journey together, I ask you to remember this advice: - Your most important commitment is to follow your heart, embrace trust, understanding, and giving without ever keeping score, and knowing that your partners feeling always come first.
May then, this love in which you have joined your hands and hearts today, never fail, but grow deeper and stronger as the years go on. 

By the power of your love and commitment, and by the authority vested in me, according to the laws of The Commonwealth of Massachusetts.
I now pronounce you married, and you may seal your vows with a kiss.

Please rise and welcome, The New Mr. and Mrs.

Sample  Ceremony 9
Today it is with great pleasure that we celebrate the wedding of Katie and Adam.
You have all come here, to share in this formal commitment they make to one another.   You offer your love and support to this family, and allow this Bride and Groom to start their married life together, surrounded by the people dearest and most important to them.  
Katie and Adam have asked me to thank you all, family, friends and loved ones, for your presence here today, especially those of you who have travelled a great distance, making such an effort in sharing this day with us, and being a part of this celebration.

Let us first define marriage:
“Marriage is a commitment to life, to the best that two people can find and bring out in each other. It offers opportunities for sharing and growth that no other human relationship can equal; a joining that is promised for a lifetime. Within the circle of its love, marriage encompasses all of life's most important relationships.
 A wife and a husband are each other's best friend, confidant, lover, teacher, listener, and critic. There may come times when one partner is heartbroken or ailing, and the love of the other may resemble the tender caring of a parent for a child.  Marriage deepens and enriches every facet of life. Happiness is fuller; memories are fresher; commitment is stronger; even anger is felt more strongly, and passes away more quickly.
 Marriage understands and forgives the mistakes life is unable to avoid. It encourages and nurtures new life, new experiences, and new ways of expressing love through the seasons of life. 
When two people pledge to love and care for each other in marriage, they create a spirit unique to themselves, which binds them closer than any spoken or written words.     Marriage is a promise, a potential, made in the hearts of two people who love, which takes a lifetime to fulfill.”


Now let us define love in Marriage!
"Love is friendship caught fire; it is quiet, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving.   It is loyalty through good and bad times.   It settles for less than perfection, and makes allowances for human weaknesses.   Love is content with the present, hopes for the future, and does not brood over the past.  It is the day-in and day-out chronicles of irritations, problems, compromises, small disappointments, big victories, and working toward common goals.  If you have love in your life, it can make up for a great many things you lack… If you do not have it, no matter what else there is, it is not enough."

Let's elaborate on friendship's role in marriage:
“It is often said that it is love that makes the world go round. However, without doubt, it is friendship, which keeps our spinning existence on an even keel. True friendship provides so many of the essentials for a happy life-it is the foundation on which to build an enduring relationship, it is the mortar which bonds us together in harmony, and it is the calm, warm protection we sometimes need when the world outside seems cold and chaotic. True friendship holds a mirror to our foibles and failings, without destroying our sense of worthiness. True friendship nurtures our hopes, supports us in our disappointments, and encourages us to grow to our best potential. Katie and Adam came together as friends. Today, they pledge to each other not only their love, but also the strength, warmth and, most importantly, the fun of true friendship.”
Ask Mothers to come up and light candles  MOMS NAMES ??       


Give Flowers to maid of honor with Katie and Adam facing each other and holding hands, 
Katie and Adam
“Within this blessed union of souls, where two hearts intertwine to become one, there lies a promise.  Perfectly born, divinely created, and intimately shared, it is a place where the hope and majesty of beginnings reside. Where all things are made possible by the astounding love, shared by two spirits. As you hold each other’s hands in this promise, and eagerly look into the future in each other’s eyes, may your unconditional love and devotion take you to places were you’ve both only dreamed. Where you’ll dwell for a lifetime of happiness, sheltered in the warmth of each other’s arms.”
“These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love for you, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow, and forever. These are the hands that will work alongside yours, as together you build your future. These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch, will comfort you like no other. These are the hands that will hold you when fear or grief fills your mind. These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes; tears of sorrow, and as in today, tears of joy. These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children, the hands that will help you to hold your family as one. These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it. And lastly, these are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged, will still be reaching for yours, still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch.” 

Ask Jacob to present rings
 Exchange of Rings hold in right hand- hold left hands
       The wedding ring is an unbroken, never-ending circle, as your commitment and love for each other is never-ending. These simple bands are made precious by what they represent. They are a symbol to you and to the world of your union. Your rings say that you are two individuals bound together. 
When you look at these rings, remember the commitment that you are making to each other today. They show the world, that you love, and are loved by another.

Adam, place the ring on Katie’s finger, and repeat after me:
Katie I give you this ring, wear it with love and joy.  As this ring has no end, neither shall my love for you.  I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever.  I will trust you and honor you.  I will laugh with you and cry with you. I will always first, give you the best of everything I have.  I will love you faithfully through the best and the worst, through the difficult and the easy.  What may come, good or bad, I will always be there. As I have given you my hand to hold, so I give you my life to keep.
 I choose you to be my wife my partner in life and my one true love. 
this day and every day.

Katie, place the ring on Adam’s finger, and repeat after me:
 Adam I give you this ring, wear it with love and joy.  As this ring has no end, neither shall my love for you.  I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever.  I will trust you and honor you.  I will laugh with you and cry with you. I will always first, give you the best of everything I have.  I will love you faithfully through the best and the worst, through the difficult and the easy.  What may come, good or bad, I will always be there. As I have given you my hand to hold, so I give you my life to keep. 
I choose you to be my husband, my partner in life, and my one true love, this day and every day.

Reading by:  ?
I Do’s
(turning to groom)
Do you Adam take Katie as your wedded wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, both in sickness and in health, to love and cherish her for as long as you both shall live.     Adam: I do
(Turning to bride)
Do you Katie take Adam as your wedded husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, both in sickness and in health, to love and cherish him for as long as you both shall live.
Katie: I do  

Closing:
May these two find happiness in their union. May they live faithfully together, and may they ever remain in compassion and understanding, that their years may be rich in the joys of life, and their days good and long upon the earth. 
Adam and Katie, you have now affirmed before your families and friends, your love and your caring for each other. May the challenges of your life together be met with courage and optimism. May you learn from your failures and grow in your achievements.  Let your love always be stronger than your anger. May the spirit of love be ever a part of your lives, so that this union we here celebrate today, can be worthy of continued celebration, tomorrow and forever.

Remember… Your most important commitment is to follow your heart, embrace trust, understanding, and giving without ever keeping score, and knowing that your partners feeling always come first. 

Believe the best of your beloved, rather than the worst. Confide in your partner, and ask for help when you need it. Remember that true friendship is the basis for any lasting relationship. Give your spouse the same courtesies and kindnesses, which you bestow on your friends… and Never go to sleep mad ... stay up and fight, and ...           Say "I love you" every day.

As you have consented together to be bound to one another in marriage, you have also made special promises to each other, which have been symbolized by the joining of hands, taking of vows, and by the giving and receiving of rings.  Marriage is a beautiful tribute of your faith in each other.  Now you belong entirely to each other.  
By the power of your love and commitment, and the authority vested in me by the Commonwealth of Massachusetts, 
 I now pronounce you husband and wife! 
You may kiss the Bride! 
Will everyone please rise and welcome for the first time, 
Mr. and Mrs.
, but no mention was made up to now of their function or significance. I shall now speak of their symbolic value. The two candles that are lit symbolize Stephanie and Barrett as individuals.

Some people believe that when children are born, a light is born within them, it stays with them and lights their path in their life journey in search for their soul mate.


The third candle, still unlit, is called the Unity Candle, and it symbolizes Stephanie and Barrett in the unity of marriage.


Together Stephanie and Barrett will now light their Unity Candle; its light will guide them in their future journey.


One flame of warmth, one light to guide your path together,

one flame of hope to shine forever.
The Short and Sweet Ceremony  

 Every marriage is unique and special. But all marriages thrive on love and understanding. When we marry, we freely give everything we have, and in the end we get much more in return. That quite simply, is the true definition of love.

( turning to groom)
Do you Kevin take Sabine as your wedded wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, both in sickness and in health to love and cherish her for as long as you both shall live.  Kevin - I do

(turning to bride)
Do you Sabine take Kevin as your wedded husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, both in sickness and in health to love and cherish him for as long as you both shall live.  Sabine – I do

Please hold hands and squeeze …
These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong, and full of love for you. These are the hands that are holding yours on your wedding day, as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow, and forever.  The hands that will work alongside yours as together you both build your future.  These are the hands that will passionately love you, and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch, will comfort you like no other.  These are the hands that will hold you, when fear or grief enters your life.  The hands that will countless times, wipe tears of joy, and tears of sorrow from your eyes.  These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children.  The hands that will help hold your family together as one.  These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it.  The hands that even when wrinkled with age, will still be reaching for yours, still giving the same unspoken tenderness, with just a touch.
Having this love in your hearts, you have chosen to seal your vows, by the blessing, and giving and receiving of rings.  

Kevin place the ring on Sabine’s finger and repeat after me:
I, Kevin take you Sabine to be my wife, my partner in life and my one true love.  I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever. I will trust you and honor you.   I will laugh with you and cry with you.  I will love you faithfully.  What may come I will always be there.  This ring is a gift for you, it symbolizes my desire, that you be my wife  from this day forward.   As this ring has no end,  neither shall my love for you.  I give you this ring, as a daily reminder of my love for you.   
 As I have given you my hand to hold, so I give you my life to keep. 

Sabine place the ring on Kevin’s finger and repeat after me:
I, Sabine take you Kevin to be my Husband, my partner in life and my one true love.  I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever.  I will trust you and honor you.   I will laugh with you and cry with you.  I will love you faithfully. What may come I will always be there.  This ring is a gift for you, it symbolizes my desire,  that you be my husband  from this day forward.   As this ring has no end,  neither shall my love for you.  I give you this ring, as a daily reminder of my love for you.  As I have given you my hand to hold, so I give you my life to keep.

As you have consented together to be bound to one another in marriage. Your most important commitment is to follow your heart, embrace trust, understanding, and giving Without ever keeping score, and knowing that your partners feeling always come first.
You have made special promises to each other, which have been symbolized by the joining of hands, taking of vows and by giving and receiving rings.

By the authority vested in me by the Commonwealth of Massachusetts and the power of your love… I have the pleasure to pronounce you husband and wife. 
You may now kiss the bride.

The Short (and not so Sweet)

( turning to groom)
Do you Jay take Anne as your wedded wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, both in sickness and in health to love and cherish her for as long as you both shall live.
Jay - I do

(Turning to bride)
Do you Anne take Jay as your wedded husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, both in sickness and in health to love him for as long as you both shall live.
Anne – I do

Jay place the ring on Anne’s finger and repeat after me ...
This ring is a gift for you, it symbolizes my desire,  that you be my husband  from this day forward.  
I give you this ring, as a daily reminder of my love for you.  

Anne place the ring on Jay’s finger and repeat after me ...
This ring is a gift for you, it symbolizes my desire,  that you be my husband  from this day forward.  
I give you this ring, as a daily reminder of my love for you.  

As you have consented together to be bound to one another in marriage.  By the authority vested in me by the Commonwealth of Massachusetts and the power of your love… 

I have the pleasure to pronounce you husband and wife. 

You may now kiss the bride.

From every human being rises a light, radiating consciousness and love into the world, and when two souls destined to be together, find each other, their stream of light flows together, and a single, brighter light goes forth from their united being.

This light we will share as one.


The tradition and meaning of the Bride and Groom each blowing out their partner’s individual flame, in no way signifies they have lost their individual identity.


The blowing out of the individual flames, simply means, that the union will come before either one of the individuals lives, at all times.


In other words, the needs of the union that has just been formed, will take precedence, over any individual needs of either participant.


It does mean a public announcement, that they are no longer the individuals they have been up to this moment; they are now the more powerful union, of the both of them, together.


May the light of love, understanding, respect and trust shine eternally for you both.

(get flowers back from Maid)

Closing

Here life is touched by love and love by life, radiating joy like warmth from fire.

Here now, between Barrett and Stephanie, lies hidden all the future of their lives together.

May that future be blessed with deepening love.

May they trust each other wholly, as they trust themselves, so that together they are equal to the needs of their tomorrows.

May they be at home wherever they dwell, and gather wisdom from all the seasons of their lives.


As you have consented together to be bound to one another in marriage. You have also made special promises to each other, which have been symbolized by the joining of hands, taking of vows and by giving and receiving rings.

Marriage is a beautiful tribute of your faith in each other.

Henceforth, you belong entirely each other.

You will be one in Mind, one in Heart, and one in Affection.

Whatever sacrifices you may have to make to preserve this common life, always make them generously and ...

MAY YOU TRULY LIVE, ALL OF THE DAYS OF YOUR LIFE !


By the power of your love and commitment, and the authority vested in me by the Commonwealth of Massachusetts,  I now pronounce you husband and wife!


You may kiss the Bride!

Will everyone please rise and welcome for the first time anywhere,

the brand new  Mr. and Mrs.

(Music)

Recessional

 

Sample:  Ceremony 4

  We are here today to witness and to celebrate the marriage of Barbara and Nelson.  I would like to thank them for allowing me to be a part of their life,  and part of this special day.

The words and form of the ceremony were determined by them, and express their feelings of love and marriage, and what they wish to say to their families, to their friends, and to each other.  We gather here in anticipation, and celebration of the moment when they join together in the bonds of love, honor, respect and responsibility, that is the unity of marriage.

You have all come here to share in this formal commitment they make to one another, to offer your love and support to this union, and to allow this Bride and Groom to start their married life together, surrounded by the people dearest and most important to them.

So welcome to one and all, family, friends and loved ones,

Barbara and Nelson have asked me to thank you all for your presence here today, especially to those of you who have travelled a great distance, making such an effort to share this day with us, and to be a part of this celebration.

Your presence and participation makes their celebration truly exceptional. They now welcome your blessing, encouragement, and lifelong support, for their decision to be married. 

(turning to bride and groom)

Look at one another and remember this moment in time.  Before this moment, you have been many things to one another, acquaintance, friend, and companion. Now you shall say a few words that will take you across the threshold of life, and things will never quite be the same. For after these vows, you shall say to the world, this is my husband, this is my wife.

Barbara and Nelson, as you may already have come to know, when we love, we see things other people do not see.         We see beneath the surface, to the qualities that make our beloved special and unique. To see with loving eyes, is to know inner beauty. And to be loved is to be seen and known, as we are known to no other. 


To make this relationship work, however, takes more than love.  It takes trust, and to know in your hearts, that you want only the best for each other. It takes dedication, to stay open to one another, to learn and grow, even when it is difficult to do so. And it takes faith, to go forward together without knowing what the future holds for you both.

The true art of successful married life, is an inner spiritual journey.  It is a mutual enrichment, a give and take between two personalities, a mingling of two endowments, which diminishes neither, but enhances both.

Marriage is perhaps the greatest and most challenging adventure of human relationships.

No ceremony can create your marriage; only you can do that, through love and patience; through dedication and perseverance; through talking and listening, through flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor.

Marriage is not about looking for perfection in each other. It is having the capacity to forgive and forget. It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow. It is finding room for the things of spirit. It is a common search for the good and the beautiful. It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal. It is not just marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.

Marriage is a commitment to life,  to achieving the best that two people can find, and bring out in each other. It offers opportunities for sharing, and growth that no other human relationship can equal, a joining that is promised, for a lifetime.  Within the circle of its love, marriage encompasses all of life's most important relationships. A wife and a husband are each other's best friend, confidant, lover, teacher, listener, and critic. There may come times when one partner is heartbroken or ailing, and the love of the other may resemble the tender caring of a parent for a child. Marriage deepens and enriches every facet of life.

Happiness is fuller; memories are fresher; commitment is stronger; even anger is felt more strongly - and passes away more quickly.

Marriage understands, and forgives the mistakes life is unable to avoid. It encourages and nurtures new life, new experiences, and new ways of expressing love through the seasons of life. When two people pledge to love and care for each other in marriage, they create a spirit unique to themselves, which binds them closer than any spoken or written words. 

Marriage is a promise, a potential, made in the hearts of two people who love, which takes a lifetime to fulfill. 

Barbara and Nelson,  this is your day, and your time.  Today you declare the love and commitment you have expressed to each other many times before.  We are concerned here with something more beautiful than just romance. You two have decided to make the journey through life together, and to help each other make as much of it as two unique individuals can. 

Your families, who have given you life and sustenance, are here with you. Your friends are here, standing with you. Through all these people, you have become the two you are. All of them support you as you join your lives together into one.

For you, the families of these two young people, this is a special day in your lives as well. You have gathered to celebrate this joyous occasion with your children, but they are no longer children. Those who look to you for love have become sources of new love. Barbara and Nelson are accepting the responsibility of this marriage for themselves, to build together a life and tradition, as you, their families have prepared them.  Their marriage will bring together your two families, drawing together the wisdom of many lives to build their own life.

The rest of you are special friends of Barbara and Nelson, and you have  become even more special by being here to share in this celebration. You have been as family and you have shared have shared the good times and the bad times.        The qualities of your friendship, has enriched the quality of their lives. Now you will witness and confirm the uniqueness of their friendship  and love for each other.


All of us here wish to give Barbara and Nelson the gift of happiness.  However, we are limited in our ability to provide such a gift.  Happiness is the fulfillment that comes from building their marriage together. Marriage is more than words or ceremony. It is a commitment to be reaffirmed each and every day. Happiness can also be the product of contentment, that each has the strength to accept in their lives what cannot be changed, and the love to change what cannot be accepted.

You can make your marriage a living thing.  It will be you who can begin every day making choices, to express caring or avoid showing it,  to reveal love, or to be too busy, to acknowledge respect, and to accept joy from one another, or build walls that will lead to destruction.

It will be you both, who also shapes what is possible, for each other, allowing each other the space and the privacy to be unique individuals.

When you follow the leading of your own personalities and talents, then each of you will have strength upon which both can depend. So it is that you come together, ready to give of yourselves, and to accept each other, valuing each other's special gifts,  while being prepared to work and to trust.


(simple hand ceremony)

As an expression that your hearts are joined together in love,  will you now please face each other, and hold hands so you may feel the gift,  that you are to one another.   


These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love for you, that are now holding yours on your wedding day, as you promise to love each other, today, tomorrow, and forever.

These are the hands that will work alongside yours, as together you build your future.

These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch will comfort you like no other.

These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children.

These are the hands that will help you to hold your family as one.  And lastly, these are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged, will still be reaching for yours, still giving you the same unspoken tenderness,  with just a touch.

Because of this love in your hearts, you will now seal your vows by the giving and receiving of these rings. 

May I have the rings, please?  (Hold in right hands, join left hands.)

The wedding ring is an unbroken, never-ending circle, as your commitment and love for each other is never-ending.

These simple bands are one of the most important and lasting keepsakes any married couple can have, they are made precious by what they represent.

They are a symbol to you and to the world of your union. Let these rings serve not as locks binding you together, but as keys, unlocking the secrets of your hearts for each other to know, and thus bringing you closer each day that you wear them.

When you look at these rings, remember the commitment that you are making to each other today. They show the world, that you love, and are loved by another.


Nelson, place the ring on Barbara’s finger, and repeat after me:

Barbara, I give you this ring, wear it with love and joy.  As this ring has no end, neither shall my love for you.  I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever.  I will trust you and honor you.  I will laugh with you and cry with you. I will always first, give you the best of everything I have.  I will love you faithfully through the best and the worst, through the difficult and the easy.  What may come, good or bad, I will always be there. As I have given you my hand to hold, so I give you my life to keep.  I choose you to be my wife my partner in life and my one true love.  I give you this ring, as a daily reminder of my love for you, this day and every day.


Barbara, place the ring on Nelson’s finger, and repeat after me:

Nelson I give you this ring, wear it with love and joy.  As this ring has no end, neither shall my love for you.  I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever.  I will trust you and honor you.  I will laugh with you and cry with you. I will always first, give you the best of everything I have.  I will love you faithfully through the best and the worst, through the difficult and the easy.  What may come, good or bad, I will always be there.  As I have given you my hand to hold, so I give you my life to keep.   I choose you to be my wife my partner in life and my one true love.  I give you this ring, as a daily reminder of my love for you, this day and every day.

A ring is a perfect circle, a symbol of unity, of wholeness, of completion. What were once two, separate and incomplete, have now become one, whole and undivided.


(Turning to Groom)

Do you Nelson Take Barbara to be your lawfully wedded wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, both in sickness and in health, to love and cherish her for as long as you both shall live.     “I do”

Do you Barbara take Nelson to be your wedded husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, both in sickness and in health, to love and cherish him for as long as you both shall live.

“I do” 


Remember… Your most important commitment is to follow your heart, embrace trust, understanding, and giving without ever keeping score, and knowing that your partners feeling always come first. 


As you have consented together to be bound to one another in marriage, you have also made special promises to each other, which have been symbolized by the joining of hands, taking of vows, and by the giving and receiving of rings.  Marriage is a beautiful tribute of your faith in each other.  Now you belong entirely to each other. 


By the power of your love and commitment, and the authority vested in me by the Commonwealth of Massachusetts, I now pronounce you husband and wife!

You may kiss the Bride!

Will everyone please welcome,  Mr and Mrs Hardy

Sample:  Ceremony 8


Today it is with great pleasure that we celebrate the wedding of Katie and Adam.

You have all come here, to share in this formal commitment they make to one another.   You offer your love and support to this family, and allow this Bride and Groom to start their married life together, surrounded by the people dearest and most important to them. 

Katie and Adam have asked me to thank you all, family, friends and loved ones, for your presence here today, especially those of you who have travelled a great distance, making such an effort in sharing this day with us, and being a part of this celebration.


Let us first define marriage:

“Marriage is a commitment to life, to the best that two people can find and bring out in each other. It offers opportunities for sharing and growth that no other human relationship can equal; a joining that is promised for a lifetime. Within the circle of its love, marriage encompasses all of life's most important relationships.

A wife and a husband are each other's best friend, confidant, lover, teacher, listener, and critic. There may come times when one partner is heartbroken or ailing, and the love of the other may resemble the tender caring of a parent for a child.  Marriage deepens and enriches every facet of life. Happiness is fuller; memories are fresher; commitment is stronger; even anger is felt more strongly, and passes away more quickly.

Marriage understands and forgives the mistakes life is unable to avoid. It encourages and nurtures new life, new experiences, and new ways of expressing love through the seasons of life.

When two people pledge to love and care for each other in marriage, they create a spirit unique to themselves, which binds them closer than any spoken or written words.     Marriage is a promise, a potential, made in the hearts of two people who love, which takes a lifetime to fulfill.”



Now let us define love in Marriage!

"Love is friendship caught fire; it is quiet, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving.   It is loyalty through good and bad times.   It settles for less than perfection, and makes allowances for human weaknesses.   Love is content with the present, hopes for the future, and does not brood over the past.  It is the day-in and day-out chronicles of irritations, problems, compromises, small disappointments, big victories, and working toward common goals.  If you have love in your life, it can make up for a great many things you lack… If you do not have it, no matter what else there is, it is not enough."


Let's elaborate on friendship's role in marriage:

“It is often said that it is love that makes the world go round. However, without doubt, it is friendship, which keeps our spinning existence on an even keel. True friendship provides so many of the essentials for a happy life-it is the foundation on which to build an enduring relationship, it is the mortar which bonds us together in harmony, and it is the calm, warm protection we sometimes need when the world outside seems cold and chaotic. True friendship holds a mirror to our foibles and failings, without destroying our sense of worthiness. True friendship nurtures our hopes, supports us in our disappointments, and encourages us to grow to our best potential. Katie and Adam came together as friends. Today, they pledge to each other not only their love, but also the strength, warmth and, most importantly, the fun of true friendship.”

Ask Mothers to come up and light candles  MOMS NAMES ??      

Give Flowers to maid of honor with Katie and Adam facing each other and holding hands,

Katie and Adam

“Within this blessed union of souls, where two hearts intertwine to become one, there lies a promise.  Perfectly born, divinely created, and intimately shared, it is a place where the hope and majesty of beginnings reside. Where all things are made possible by the astounding love, shared by two spirits. As you hold each other’s hands in this promise, and eagerly look into the future in each other’s eyes, may your unconditional love and devotion take you to places were you’ve both only dreamed. Where you’ll dwell for a lifetime of happiness, sheltered in the warmth of each other’s arms.”

“These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love for you, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow, and forever. These are the hands that will work alongside yours, as together you build your future. These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch, will comfort you like no other. These are the hands that will hold you when fear or grief fills your mind. These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes; tears of sorrow, and as in today, tears of joy. These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children, the hands that will help you to hold your family as one. These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it. And lastly, these are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged, will still be reaching for yours, still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch.” 

Because of this love in your hearts, you will now seal your vows by the giving and receiving of these rings. 

(present rings  hold in right hands- hold left hands)


       The wedding ring is an unbroken, never-ending circle, as your commitment and love for each other is never-ending. These simple bands are made precious by what they represent. They are a symbol to you and to the world of your union. Your rings say that you are two individuals bound together.

When you look at these rings, remember the commitment that you are making to each other today. They show the world, that you love, and are loved by another.


Adam, place the ring on Katie’s finger, and repeat after me:

Katie I give you this ring, wear it with love and joy.  As this ring has no end, neither shall my love for you.  I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever.  I will trust you and honor you.  I will laugh with you and cry with you. I will always first, give you the best of everything I have.  I will love you faithfully through the best and the worst, through the difficult and the easy.  What may come, good or bad, I will always be there. As I have given you my hand to hold, so I give you my life to keep.

I choose you to be my wife my partner in life and my one true love.

this day and every day.


Katie, place the ring on Adam’s finger, and repeat after me:

Adam I give you this ring, wear it with love and joy.  As this ring has no end, neither shall my love for you.  I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever.  I will trust you and honor you.  I will laugh with you and cry with you. I will always first, give you the best of everything I have.  I will love you faithfully through the best and the worst, through the difficult and the easy.  What may come, good or bad, I will always be there. As I have given you my hand to hold, so I give you my life to keep.

I choose you to be my husband, my partner in life, and my one true love, this day and every day.


Reading by:  ?

I Do’s

(turning to groom)

Do you Adam take Katie as your wedded wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, both in sickness and in health, to love and cherish her for as long as you both shall live.     Adam: I do

(Turning to bride)

Do you Katie take Adam as your wedded husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, both in sickness and in health, to love and cherish him for as long as you both shall live.

Katie: I do 


Closing:
May these two find happiness in their union. May they live faithfully together, and may they ever remain in compassion and understanding, that their years may be rich in the joys of life, and their days good and long upon the earth.
Adam and Katie, you have now affirmed before your families and friends, your love and your caring for each other. May the challenges of your life together be met with courage and optimism. May you learn from your failures and grow in your achievements.  Let your love always be stronger than your anger. May the spirit of love be ever a part of your lives, so that this union we here celebrate today, can be worthy of continued celebration, tomorrow and forever.

Remember… Your most important commitment is to follow your heart, embrace trust, understanding, and giving without ever keeping score, and knowing that your partners feeling always come first.


Believe the best of your beloved, rather than the worst. Confide in your partner, and ask for help when you need it. Remember that true friendship is the basis for any lasting relationship. Give your spouse the same courtesies and kindnesses, which you bestow on your friends… and Never go to sleep mad ... stay up and fight, and ...           Say "I love you" every day.


As you have consented together to be bound to one another in marriage, you have also made special promises to each other, which have been symbolized by the joining of hands, taking of vows, and by the giving and receiving of rings.  Marriage is a beautiful tribute of your faith in each other.  Now you belong entirely to each other. 

By the power of your love and commitment, and the authority vested in me by the Commonwealth of Massachusetts, 

I now pronounce you husband and wife!

You may kiss the Bride!

Will everyone please rise and welcome for the first time,

Mr. and Mrs.

Sample:  Ceremony 2

I  would like to welcome  all of you, the most important people in the lives of this couple who are gathered here today to witness and to celebrate the joining of Michelle and Bob in the unity of marriage. You have all come here to share in this formal commitment they make to one another, to offer your love and support to this union, and to allow this Bride and Groom to start their married life together, surrounded by the people dearest and most important to them.   Thank you for being here. …

Thank you for loving them, encouraging them,  and being there down through the years in the various ways you have, to help them to become the kind of people that they are today.

And I thank you both, for giving me the pleasure of knowing you, being part of your life, and part of this special day. 


I would now invite both Mom’s, Susan and Ellen to come up and light a candle.

Michelle and Bob have also asked me to thank you all for your presence here today, especially to those of you who have travelled a great distance, making such an effort to share this day with us, and to be a part of this celebration. 

Because life is full of the unexpected, there are those who are not able to be here to share this day with us. At this moment we would like to  remember  Michelle's father and      Bob's father.   They are all dearly missed, loved, and very much in our thoughts on this wonderful day. Their gifts of love and compassion over the years will always be cherished and remembered. We are certain they are here today in spirit.

In their memory, let us have a moment of silence….


Every marriage is unique and special. But all marriages thrive on love and understanding. Love is a quiet, mutual confidence, of joy, sharing, and forgiving, love is not jealousy.  It is loyalty through good and bad times.  

It settles for less than perfection, and makes allowances for human weaknesses.  

Love is content with the present, hopes for the future, and does not brood over the past.  It is working toward common goals.  If you have love in your life, it can make up for a great many things you lack… If you do not have it, no matter what else there is, it is not enough.  Love is one of the greatest experiences that we as humans can have, but it is when love is combined with real friendship that both are infinitely enhanced. When we marry, we freely give everything we have, and in the end we get much more in return. That quite simply, is the true definition of love.

 I would now like to invite Joseph to recite a reading


Do you Michelle take Robert to be your Husband?  Do you promise to love him without reservation, honor and respect him, comfort him in times of sorrow, encourage him to achieve all of his goals, laugh with him, cry with him,

grow with his spirit, always be open and honest with him and be with him for as long as you both shall live?  I do


Do you Robert take Michelle to be your Wife? 

"Do you promise to love, honor, cook for her,

clean up after her, surrender your share of the blanket,

to relinquish the remote, and to lift the toilet seat, 

until death do you part?"


Do you promise to love her without reservation, honor and respect her, comfort her in times of sorrow, encourage her to achieve all of her goals, laugh with her, cry with her, grow with her spirit, always be open and honest with her and be with her for as long as you both shall live?       I do

Give flowers to MH

Start just before giving of rings:  music

Please join hands ... Squeeze please!


These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong, and full of love for you. These are the hands that are holding yours on your wedding day, as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow, and forever.  The hands that will work alongside yours, as together you both build your future. These are the hands that will passionately love you, and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch, will comfort you like no other.

These are the hands that will hold you, when fear or grief enters your life.  The hands that will countless times, wipe tears of joy, and tears of sorrow from your eyes.

 The hands that will help hold your family together as one.  These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it.  The hands, that even when wrinkled with age, will still be reaching for yours, still giving the same unspoken tenderness, with just a touch. 

Because of this love in your hearts, now you will seal your vows, by the giving, and receiving of rings. 

May I have the rings please,  BM GET  MIC

Bob, please repeat after me while placing the ring on Michelle’s finger: This ring is a gift for you, it symbolizes my desire, that you be my Wife  from this day forward I promise to love and care for you.

I promise to give you the best of myself and to ask of you no more than you can give. I will always be honest with you, kind, patient, and forgiving.

But most of all, I promise to be a true and loyal friend to you.  I promise to be your partner in all things, to love you in good times and in bad, with all I have to give, completely and forever. I choose you to be my wife, my partner in life, and my one true love. I give you this ring, as a daily reminder of my love for you, this day and every day.  I will always be honored to call you my Wife.

Michelle, please repeat after me while placing the ring on Bob’s finger: This ring is a gift for you, it symbolizes my desire, that you be my Husband from this day forward.

I promise to love and care for you. I promise to give you the best of myself and to ask of you no more than you can give. I will always be honest with you, kind, patient, and forgiving. But most of all, I promise to be a true and loyal friend to you.  I promise to be your partner in all things, to love you in good times and in bad, with all I have to give, completely and forever. I choose you to be my Husband, my partner in life, and my one true love.

I give you this ring, as a daily reminder of my love for you, this day and every day.  I will always be honored to call you my Husband.

When you look at these rings, remember the commitment that you are making to each other today. They show the world, that you love, and are loved by another.

We have spent many hours, preparing for this day, and this ceremony. There are many words of advice spoken here today, and all are very valid to the happiness of this couple.  Knowing personal words spoken from the heart cut deepest, I have given Michelle and Bob a special task. I have asked them to write a small statement, a message of there feelings, from their heart to each others, and to keep it private from each other, until this part of the vows. They will now read these special vows to each other, for the first time : music

Michele to Bob / Bob to Michelle


I would now like to invite Mary to recite a reading



Unity Candle Ceremony Music

-Before we started this unique and beautiful ceremony, Michelle and Bob’s Mom’s lit two small candles which have been burning, but no mention was made up to now of their function or significance. I shall now speak of their symbolic value.

-The two candles that are lit symbolize Michelle and Bob as individuals.  -The third candle, still unlit, is called the Unity Candle, and it symbolizes Michelle and Bob together in the unity of marriage.

- Their path in life’s journey in the search for their soul mate, has now ended, as they will join these individual flames representing the joining of their lives into one.

-Together Michelle and Bob will now light their Unity Candle,  its light will guide them in their future journey.

-One flame of warmth, one light to guide your path together, one flame of hope to shine forever.  (blow out candles)

This Unity Candle symbolizes Michelle and Bob,  now the more powerful union, of the both of them, together as one.

-May the light of love, understanding, respect and trust, shine eternally for you both. This light they will share as one.


Presentation to Parents: (Rose Ceremony)

This wedding is also a celebration of the blending of two families, separate up to this moment, but united from this day forward, by the love shared by Michelle and Bob.

They wish to honor this blending of the families, and the love and sacrifice,  that each of their families have made. Today as they embrace one another in their love, so do they embrace the families that have come together, to celebrate this happy occasion. For it is their families that have shaped and guided them to become the people standing before you today. As a sign of their appreciation, love, respect, and admiration for their families, Michelle and Bob will now present each Mother, a rose of friendship and commitment to thank their parents, for the many self-less sacrifices, they have made, and for their unconditional love so freely given to their children. May these Roses serve as a symbol of their eternal love, as each of their families, also join and support each other from this day forward.

(Bride & Groom exchange hugs with their parents and present a rose to their  mothers.)   Return to me get flowers back

Marriage is a beautiful tribute of your faith in each other. Henceforth you belong to entirely each other. You will be one in Mind, one in Heart, and one in Affection.

Whatever sacrifices you may have to make to preserve this common life, always make them generously.

May then, this love in which you have joined your hands and hearts today, never fail but grow deeper and stronger as the years go on. 

Will everyone please stand …


As you continue on your journey together, I ask you to remember this: Your most important commitment is to follow your heart, embrace trust, understanding, and giving, without ever keeping score, and knowing that your partners feeling always come first.

With these vows of love and trust, joining of hands, and the giving and receiving of rings –

by the power vested in me by the

Commonwealth of Massachusetts,

I now pronounce you husband and wife.

You may now kiss the bride.


Sample:  Ceremony 3

   We are gathered here today to witness and to celebrate the joining of Carla and Christopher  in the unity of marriage. You have all come here to share in this formal commitment they make to one another, to offer your love and support to this union, and to allow this Bride and Groom to start their married life together, surrounded by the people dearest and most important to them. 

Every marriage is unique and special. But all marriages thrive on love and understanding. When we marry, we freely give everything we have, and in the end we get much more in return.  That quite simply, is the true definition of love         

Love is one of the greatest experiences that we as humans can have, but it is when love is combined with real friendship that both are infinitely enhanced. 

Love is a quiet, mutual confidence, of joy, sharing, and forgiving,  love is not jealousy.  It is loyalty through good and bad times.  

It settles for less than perfection, and makes allowances for human weaknesses.   Love is content with the present, hopes for the future, and does not brood over the past.  It is working toward common goals.  If you have love in your life, it can make up for a great many things you lack… If you do not have it, no matter what else there is, it is not enough.

And so I now ask of you:

Christopher, are the vows in which you are about to take of your own free will and consent.      Yes

Carla are the vows in which you are about to take of your own free will and consent.      Yes

I would now like to invite Steve to recite a reading


Do you Christopher take Carla as your wedded wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, both in sickness and in health to love and cherish her as your best friend, for as long as you both shall live. I do


Do you Carla take Christopher  as your wedded husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, both in sickness and in health to love and cherish him as your best friend, for as long as you both shall live. I do

Give flowers to MH

Start just before giving of rings:  music

Please join hands ... Squeeze please!

These are the hands of your best friend,

young and strong, and full of love for you.

These are the hands that are holding yours on your wedding day, as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow, and forever. 

The hands that will work alongside yours, as together you both build your future.

These are the hands that will passionately love you,

and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch, will comfort you like no other.

These are the hands that will hold you, when fear or grief enters your life.  The hands that will countless times, wipe tears of joy, and tears of sorrow from your eyes.

These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children.  The hands that will help hold your family together as one.  These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it.  The hands, that even when wrinkled with age, will still be reaching for yours, still giving the same unspoken tenderness, with just a touch. 

Because of this love in your hearts, now you will seal your vows, by the giving, and receiving of rings. 

May I have the rings please, Hold in right hands hold left hands.

The wedding ring is an unbroken, never-ending circle, as your commitment and love for each other is never- ending.

These simple bands are one of the most important and lasting keepsakes any married couple can have, they are made precious by what they represent.

They are a symbol to you and to the world of your union.

Christopher  please repeat after me. While placing the ring on Carla’s finger:

I give you this ring; wear it with love and joy.  As this ring has no end, neither shall my love for you. I choose you to be my wife this day and every day.

Carla please repeat after me. While placing the ring on Christopher’s finger:

I give you this ring; wear it with love and joy. As this ring has no end, neither shall my love for you. I choose you to be my Husband this day and every day. 


When you look at these rings, remember the commitment that you are making to each ther today. They show the world, that you love, and are loved by another.

Presentation to Parents: (Rose Ceremony)

This wedding is also a celebration of the blending of two families, separate up to this moment, but united from this day forward, by the love shared by Carla and Christopher. – This new family will grow, blending their different traditions, while strengthening the family tree.

Carla and Christopher wish to honor this blending of the families, and the love and sacrifice,  that each of their families have made. Today as they embrace one another in their love, so do they embrace the families that have come together, to celebrate this happy occasion. For it is their families that have shaped and guided them to become the people that they are today. As a sign of their appreciation, love, respect, and admiration for their families, Carla and Christopher will now present each Mother, a rose of friendship and commitment, to thank their parents, for the many self-less sacrifices, they have made, and for their unconditional love so freely given to their children. May these Roses serve as a symbol of their eternal love, as each of their families also join and support each other from this day forward.

(Bride & Groom exchange hugs with their parents and present a rose to their mothers.) Return to me get flowers back

Marriage is a beautiful tribute of your faith in each other. Henceforth you belong to entirely each other. You will be one in Mind, one in Heart, and one in Affection.

Whatever sacrifices you may have to make to preserve this common life, always make them generously.  May then, this love in which you have joined your hands and hearts today, never fail but grow deeper and stronger as the years go on.   

Will everyone please rise …

As you continue on your journey together, I ask you to remember this: Your most important commitment is to follow your heart, embrace trust, understanding, and giving, without ever keeping score, and knowing that your partners feeling always come first.


With these vows of love and trust, joining of hands, and the giving and receiving of rings –by the power vested in me by the Commonwealth of Massachusetts,

I now pronounce you husband and wife.

You may now kiss the bride.

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Example Ceremony 1 (with wine box)

We are gathered here today to witness and to celebrate the joining of Michelle and Emanuel  in the unity of marriage. You have all come here to share in this formal commitment they make to one another, to offer your love and support to this union, and to allow this Bride and Groom to start their married life together, surrounded by the people dearest and most important to them. 

Every marriage is unique and special. But all marriages thrive on love and understanding. When we marry, we freely give everything we have, and in the end we get much more in return.

That quite simply, is the true definition of love         

Love is one of the greatest experiences that we as humans can have, but it is when love is combined with real friendship that both are infinitely enhanced. 

Love is a quiet, mutual confidence, of joy, sharing, and forgiving,  love is not jealousy.  It is loyalty through good and bad times.  

It settles for less than perfection, and makes allowances for human weaknesses.   Love is content with the present, hopes for the future, and does not brood over the past.  It is working toward common goals.  If you have love in your life, it can make up for a great many things you lack… If you do not have it, no matter what else there is, it is not enough.


And so I now ask of you:

Emanuel, are the vows in which you are about to take of your own free will and consent.      Yes

Michelle are the vows in which you are about to take of your own free will and consent.      Yes


I would now like to invite Dave to recite a reading


Do you Emanuel take Michelle as your wedded wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer,

both in sickness and in health to love and cherish her as your best friend, for as long as you both shall live. I do


Do you Michelle take Emanuel  as your wedded husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, both in sickness and in health to love and cherish him as your best friend, for as long as you both shall live. I do


Start just before giving of rings:  music

Please join hands ... Squeeze please!

These are the hands of your best friend,

young and strong, and full of love for you.

These are the hands that are holding yours on your wedding day, as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow, and forever. 

The hands that will work alongside yours, as together you both build your future.

These are the hands that will passionately love you,

and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch, will comfort you like no other.

These are the hands that will hold you, when fear or grief enters your life.  The hands that will countless times, wipe tears of joy, and tears of sorrow from your eyes.

These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children.  The hands that will help hold your family together as one.  These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it.  The hands, that even when wrinkled with age, will still be reaching for yours, still giving the same unspoken tenderness, with just a touch. 

Because of this love in your hearts, now you will seal your vows, by the giving, and receiving of rings. 

May I have the rings please,


Hold in right hands hold left hands.


The wedding ring is an unbroken, never-ending circle, as your commitment and love for each other is never- ending.

These simple bands are one of the most important and lasting keepsakes any married couple can have, they are made precious by what they represent.

They are a symbol to you and to the world of your union.

Emanuel  please repeat after me. While placing the ring on Michelle’s finger:

I give you this ring; wear it with love and joy.  As this ring has no end, neither shall my love for you. I choose you to be my wife this day and every day.

Michelle please repeat after me. While placing the ring on Emanuel’s finger:

I give you this ring; wear it with love and joy. As this ring has no end, neither shall my love for you. I choose you to be my wife this day and every day.  When you look at these rings,

remember the commitment that you are making to each ther today. They show the world, that you love, and are loved by another.


I would now like to invite Ivoni to recite a reading


Michelle and Emanuel  , you have decided to conclude your wedding with a Wine Box Ceremony. Move to the table. Music

You have brought here today a strong wooden box. This box will hold a bottle of wine and two glasses. In addition, this box will hold intimate love letters, that you each have written to the other.  These letters express your thoughts of love on This your wedding day, they share intimate details about the good qualities that you have found in each other, they include the reasons that you fell in love with one another and what you would like to privately say to this person you love and are marrying today.

It should be emphasized that no one has read the letters but the author of each letter.  Michelle and Emanuel  , should you ever find your marriage enduring serious difficulties, you agree that before you make any irrational decisions, that you both, as a couple, will open the box, venture off into separates rooms with a glass of wine, to read the letters your that you wrote to one another when you were united as a couple.  By reading these love letters, you will be given an opportunity to reflect upon the reasons that you fell in love with each other in the first place.  Of course, the hope is that there will never be a reason for you to open this box. Until you open it together on your 5th anniversary! Read your letters, drink your wine and write new letters, put them into the box with these letters, seal it, and open again on your 10th anniversary. Repeating this every 5 years.

Michelle and Emanuel  , I now ask that you lock this box together, looking forward to its opening, 5 years from today.      Return to me

Marriage is a beautiful tribute of your faith in each other. Henceforth you belong to entirely each other. You will be one in Mind, one in Heart, and one in Affection. Whatever sacrifices you may have to make to preserve this common life, always make them generously.


May then, this love in which you have joined your hands and hearts today, never fail but grow deeper and stronger as the years go on. 

Will everyone please stand …


As you continue on your journey together, I ask you to remember this: Your most important commitment is to follow your heart, embrace trust, understanding, and giving, without ever keeping score, and knowing that your partners feeling always come first.



With these vows of love and trust, joining of hands, and the giving and receiving of rings –

by the power vested in me by the

Commonwealth of Massachusetts,


I now pronounce you husband and wife.

You may now kiss the bride.


Sample Ceremonies

A Note from your JP :

When planning your ceremony, it can be best to take different lines from any of the above ceremonies, and you can then add some of your own creative thoughts, if desired.


Additions main Ceremony can also be: Wine Box,  Unity Candle, Rose’s, Sand, Hand-Fasting Cord, and Ring Warming Ceremonies as enhancements.


I can help you make it all work and guide you in creating your own special perfect Ceremony!   (just ask)

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Simple Ceremonies

Sample:   Ceremony 12

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Sample: Ceremony 10

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Every marriage is unique and special. All marriages thrive on love and understanding. When we marry, we freely give everything we have, and in the end we get much more in return. That quite simply, is the true definition of love.

Do you Tom take David as your wedded husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, both in sickness and in health to love and cherish him for as long as you both shall live?       I do

Do you David take Tom as your wedded husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, both in sickness and in health to love and cherish him for as long as you both shall live?     I do

David and Tom, please join hands.

These are the hands of your best friend, at once strong and tender, and full of love for you. Today, you promise to love each other tomorrow and forever. These hands will ardently love you, and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch, comfort you like no other. These hands will hold you, when fear or grief enters your life. These hands will wipe tears of joy, and tears of sorrow from your eyes. They will give you strength when you need it.  These hands that even when wrinkled with age, will still be reaching for yours, still giving the same unspoken tenderness, with just a touch.

Because of this love in your hearts, you will now seal your vows by the giving and receiving of these rings.

(hold rings in right hand, and hold left hands)

David, place the ring on Tom’s finger and repeat after me:   I David take you Tom, to be my partner in life and my one true love.  I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever. I will trust you and honor you.  I will laugh with you and cry with you.  I will love you faithfully.  What may come I will always be there.  This ring is a gift for you. It symbolizes my desire, that you be my husband from this day forward.   As this ring has no end, neither shall my love for you.  I give you this ring, as a daily reminder of my love for you.   As I have given you my hand to hold, so I give you my life to keep. I vow to be a good and faithful partner to you, to be strong, steadfast, and loving all my heart from this day forward.

Tom, place the ring on David’s finger and repeat after me:    I Tom take you David, to be my partner in life and my one true love.  I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever.  I will trust you and honor you.   I will laugh with you and cry with you.  I will love you faithfully. What may come I will always be there.  This ring is a gift for you. It symbolizes my desire that you be my husband from this day forward.   As this ring has no end, neither shall my love for you.  I give you this ring, as a daily reminder of my love for you.  As I have given you my hand to hold, so I give you my life to keep. I vow to be a good and faithful partner to you, to be strong, steadfast, and loving all my heart from this day forward.


Closing

As you have consented together to be bound to one another in marriage. Your most important commitment is to follow your heart, embrace trust, understanding, and giving, without ever keeping score, and knowing that your partners feeling always come first.


You have made special promises to each other, which have been symbolized by the joining of hands, taking of vows and by giving and receiving rings.


By the authority vested in me by the Commonwealth of Massachusetts and the power of your love,

I have the pleasure to pronounce you married.


You may now kiss.

Secular Vows For Gay Couples Sample:  Ceremony 11