So you want to write your own vows!

How to Write Your Own Vows:

Okay, take a deep breath and lets get started. This is supposed to be one of the biggest days of your lives.

Formal or informal, traditional or non-traditional, big or small, any wedding is a cause for celebration and a grand production. Keep an open mind & learn to relax. As you enjoy the process of conducting your own wedding.

Here are some questions to get you started.

1.  When and Where did you first meet?

2.  At what point did you realize you were in love

     and what were you feeling?

3.  Why do I want the commitment of a marriage?

4.  What have you learned from each other?

5.  Is my partner's happiness as important as my


6.  Do I understand the commitment I am about to


7.  What can I do to be sure that this marriage will

     work and that I be able to keep my vows?

8.  What life goals and dreams do you share?

9.  Have we discussed all the important issues?

  1. 10.What does marriage mean to both of you?

  2. 11.What is it about your partner that makes you love them?

  3. 12.Keep it descriptive, honest, heartfelt and very romantic.

Take a look at tradition. Are you non-traditional, traditional, comedians, pranksters, fun loving people?

Take a trip down memory lane.  Pour your hearts out and write down all the mushy stuff.

Also as a special (optional) part of your ceremony I will ask you both to write a heartfelt message to each other describing why you fell in love, and what about your partner makes you want to marry them ? The thing here is you do not tell your partner what this message contains you keep it a secret, and will reveal it during the ceremony.  You will each send me a copy of your message,  and I will print it for you to read to your partner during the vow section of the ceremony.

Speak them out loud to make sure they sound okay.

Important Tips:

The vows themselves should only take two to three minutes to say to one another.

Sincerity is the key; the words should come from your heart.

Consider whether or not you want to include responses from your guests after your vows. Asking them to give their blessing to your marriage and to support your relationship in the future.

NOTE:  I have many ceremonies to choose from,  I can also assist with the writing and coordination of your ceremony.  However, if you are feeling only a little bit creative, although it is a lot of work, it is a lot of fun to write your own. 

Here is how a collaboration ceremony would form:

The ceremony creation part is very easy, you can go through many examples and cut and paste those parts you like from each, email them to me and I will arrange them, give suggestions and send back, for your final approval, you can make whatever changes you wish until it's just the way you want it.  The vows you may totally write yourselves, or find some wording that reflect what you want to say (I can also suggest them).

What ever choice you decide on, I will be there for you every step of the way and collaborate with you on everything, and when your day comes, I will guide you through every step, so you both can just relax and enjoy your wedding!

When you say nothing at all  Allison Kruas

Good luck ...
and Make it FUN!
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